- 6 years ago
So I had the timeline talk with my beloved about 2 months ago. We hit upon a mutually agreed timescale of another year or so to get engaged/married, and a year after marriage to think about kids.
After we had this chat, his behaviour changed. He became MUCH more loving, attentive and kind, and bought gifts where before he’d stopped doing such things. He’s even given up smoking without saying a word to me about it (something he’s wanted to do for years).
Anyway, a few weeks ago, we had a row when out for our anniversary meal. We were talking about holidays and money, and my overdraft. Anyway. Things got heated (I hate him commenting on my finances), and culminated in him pointing his finger and saying when we’re married you are not going to manage our money like that.
So, since this argument, things have been a little dampened. A week later was his birthday, and I’d cooked a special meal, and he brought up what I want for xmas. He said he’d love to buy me some jewellery but doesn’t know what kind of thing I’d like. At this point, my brain was yelling “engagement rings, I LOVE engagement rings!”, but I just said I’d love some jewellery.
Yesterday, he reminded me I hadn’t said what I want for xmas, but when I didn’t say much he left the conversation alone.
I’ve been trying not to mention engagement etc, as I feel I took the upper hand bringing up the discussion in the first place, and know he’d like to be the instigator for such things.
Thing is, I can’t tell if he’s thinking about a ring jewellery, or if he just wants to get me something nice. And I’m wondering why things seem to have dampened down since our ‘argument’.
Hmmm, anyway, anyone got any questions or opinions?