(Closed) Curious – anyone having a joint bachelor/ette party?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would you have a joint bachelor/ette party?
    Yes! We had one and it was great. : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Yes, we plan on having one. : (16 votes)
    29 %
    Maybe - I would not be opposed. : (17 votes)
    31 %
    No - I wanted to have one though.. : (2 votes)
    4 %
    No, that sounds like a bad idea. : (16 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I’ve heard of it, and I knew a couple who did it, but there’s no way Fiance and I would. He wants to go to Vegas for his bachelor party, and I hate Vegas. 😉 I’m just not that into smokey casinos! I spend so much of my time with him anyway; I’m kind of looking forward to a low-key ladies’ night.

    Post # 4
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We didn’t! But, my SIL and her husband did! They decided to rent out a box at a cardinals game and it was catered.

    Post # 6
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    My future bro and sis in law did one. I was invited and it was horribly uncomfortable because I didn’t know anyone.

    Post # 7
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    No, they both are really into the Cardinals and were like, 26 and 29? So they were like “we’re doing “going out”” plus they share lots of mutual friends.

    Post # 8
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Might work out for some people, but I”d never do it!  I am so excited to go out with all my gals (and bridesman).  Even though we share tons of mutual friends I’m a big fan of having girls night (or my Fiance having guys night).  I wouldn’t want to share the party with him 🙂

    Post # 9
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We haven’t had ours yet, but I think the only way I would do a joint one would be if we went to Vegas. I don’t hate the idea of a joint party, but I would want to have separate parties and then maybe meet up toward the end of the night.

    Post # 10
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We’re planning on doing one.  I got the idea when my bridesmaids cousin had one, and she’s planning on having one as well.  We talked about it and the Mr. is all for it.  He said he’d rather do that than go the traditional route and I couldn’t agree more.  This way we can get all our family and friends together for a great night out and I won’t have to worry about the typical bachelorette party with inappropriate props, games, etc.  That just isn’t me!

    Post # 11
    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    We had a joint party and it was AWESOME.  It really worked out for us, as all our friends are in the same group.  We were friends for 9 years before we started dating, so basically our group of friends is the same. So, like he’s great friends with my sister (MOH) and my Bridesmaid or Best Man and vice versa, so this worked out better than having separate parties.  Rather than having separate parties, we thought it worked better in our case to combine them.  Neither of us wanted the traditional Bachelor-ette parties, so this was a great alternative.

    For our party, our MOH/Best Man planned a co-ed scavenger hunt that ended up at our favorite summertime bar.  It was a guys vs. gals challenge, which worked for us, because we’re all super competitive.  They even had t-shirts made up “Team MyName” and “Team Hubby’sName” which we all wore.  It was a great time and it was awesome to share the experience with my husband and ALL of our friends.

    Post # 12
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We’re doing a joint party, but that’s just how it worked out for us.  We’ve both been married before and we’re really past the age of going out all night and partying too hard.  Plus, every single person in our wedding party is already married (or will be within two weeks of our wedding) so we didn’t feel right planning something that wouldn’t include everyone.  Also factored in was the fact that all but two members lived out of town, so we didn’t want to have people making two trips in.

    We plan on splitting up the group during the day – the boys will go and do boy things, and the girls will go and do girly things – and then meeting up that evening for dinner and a night at a local jazz club that’s a favorite of ours.  If we end up going elsewhere, then we might, but it’s wide open right now.

    It was the only way either of us wanted to celebrate, to be honest.  But that was right for us, might not be right for everyone…

    Post # 13
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We had a joint weekend in Vegas! Most of the time we spent as one big group, but one night we had a little time separate for the girls & guys to do their own things. I think it’s a pretty cool thing to do it together, especially if you have some good friends who are guys. I think everyone can celebrate the upcoming marriage together!

    Post # 15
    355 posts
    Helper bee

    My friend and her husband had one.   Both sets of friends went to Santa Barbara for the weekend and we all stayed in the same hotel.  Most of us knew each other but not very well. 

    The schedule was:

    Friday night:

    Joint dinner.  Given the long drive, everyone crashed early

    Saturday daytime:

    Girls – Spa day

    Guys – Beach volleyball and swimming

    Saturday night – both groups went bar-hopping and clubbing on their own. 

    Sunday morning:

    Joint brunch

    It was the perfect mix of enough girl time and also alllowed their friends to bond a bit more before the big day.  The group of us also threw them a joint wine and cheese party for a larger group of friends in lieu of a shower.  By the time their wedding rolled around, their groups of friends were well-integrated so it made for a really fun wedding. 



    Post # 16
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I think we’re both doing individual things (I’ll have a bridal shower and he’s going to do something outdoorsy with the guys), but a couple nights before the wedding we’re going to have a cheesy karaoke party with our wedding party and the folks who are already in town.

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