(Closed) Curious. CBCers, did you grow up with siblings?

posted 6 years ago in No Kids
  • poll: CBCers, did you grow up with siblings?
    I have siblings and it contributed to my being CBC : (9 votes)
    16 %
    I have siblings and it did not contribute to my being CBC : (34 votes)
    59 %
    I do not have siblings and it contributed to my being CBC : (2 votes)
    3 %
    I do not have siblings and it did not contribute to my being CBC : (7 votes)
    12 %
    The inevitable other : (6 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m not CBC, but my Brother-In-Law is with his wife. He grew up with two brothers and she had at least 4-6 siblings around her age.

     

    ETA: They do dog shows/training/competitions and neither of them want kids. At all. They both have good relationships with their siblings, so I doubt this had any impact on their views. They are also both very close with their neice and nephews.

    Post # 5
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    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I have two younger siblings and while I am undecided as to the length of my CBC-ness, it has definitely impacted my wanting to not have children for the next 8 years or so! I’m 22 now and by the time my Mom was my age, she already had me. She went straight into motherhood without experiencing a lot of the things I want to, like getting a PhD and traveling, and raising kids isn’t what I want to do with my 20s. Especially if my kids are potential monsters like myself and my siblings were 😉

    Post # 6
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I have an older and younger sibling, and it didn’t contribute to my not having kids. My sister is 21, and she is currently thinking she will be CBC as well. Our brother is going to probably have kids eventually. I have helped raise kids from infancy since I was 7, THAT is what helped cement by decision. I have a great relationship with my sibs

    Post # 6
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I have an older and younger sibling, and it didn’t contribute to my not having kids. My sister is 21, and she is currently thinking she will be CBC as well. Our brother is going to probably have kids eventually. I have helped raise kids from infancy since I was 7, THAT is what helped cement by decision. I have a great relationship with my sibs

    Post # 6
    Member
    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m an only child and it did not contribute to my choice.

    Post # 6
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have two older sisters. I don’t think it contributed, besides thinking that on the off off off chance that we do have kids, I will want more than one.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    DP

    Post # 7
    Member
    4327 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I have a TON of siblings, one of which I had a big hand in watching ALL. THE. TIME. I’m 9 years older than she is. I have a great relationship with most of my siblings, but my older sister and I are like oil and water.

    What’s funny is my older sister is the biggest factor in my on-the-fence decision to be CBC. My sister was a holy terror as a kid, on up until the point she left the house in her 20s. I have always watched with my mouth agape, and asked myself WHY anyone would want to be that disrespectful to her parents. I have made many active decisions about my own behavior growing up to behave, because I could see the mental toll she took on my mother & grandparents. And I never wanted to be THAT person to anyone, even during “rebellious teenage” years.

    Now, said sister has kids, and her son is also a holy terror. Oh. My. God. He is a small version of her in every way. I would probably stab myself in the eye if I was his mother. He is so much work, and gets notes sent home daily. The kid is in kindergarten, and the school is already talking to my sister about suspending him.

    I look at my mischevious cat, and thank god that even at her worst, she’s so easy to take care of and doesn’t bother anyone for anything other than food.

    Post # 8
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    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have one sister who is 8 years older than me. She cared for me some when we were younger, but she is not CBC. I am CBC but my upbringing had little to no influence on my decision. 

    Post # 9
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    6350 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have a brother, 4 years younger than me. I played no part in raising him, so it has nothing to do with my decision to be CF.

    For me, I think it’s more something ‘innate’; just like some women feel some kind of ‘urge’ to have children, I completely lack that urge, and always have. Even as a child, I didn’t like younger children or babies. I remember as young as 8, my friends would get excited about babies, whereas I didn’t understand the fuss, felt awkward around them, and tried to avoid them. I also remember going to holiday camps when I was 9/10/11, and always feeling older than the other kids; even at 9, I hated hanging around with say, 6 or 7 year olds, because they annoyed me. I still feel exactly the same now.

    One thing I would say re raising siblings, is that a lot of parents seem to have very rose-tinted specs. I’ve seen a few threads on here where women are desperate to start TTC, and are nagging their partners (which is SO wrong but I won’t get into that), and to justify themselves, say things like ‘But we dwon’t have any less money, we’ll still have time for ourselves, we’ll still go out a lot’. I honestly wonder what planet these women are on, and if they actually understand what parenting involves. I see this also in real life; people who deliberately ignores the cons of parenting, and just don’t think about them, then a baby comes along and BAM! they’re in shcok about how tough it is. Whereas in contrast, I have an EXCELLENT idea of what parenting involves, which is precisly why I don’t want to be a parent. So I wonder if non-CFers tend tio have a much more rose-tinted view of parenthood, whereas CFers are more realistic?..

    Post # 10
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m childfree and I was an only child, but I don’t think it contributed to my decision. (I mean, maybe it did subconsciously if you want to get all Freudian here, haha, but consciously no it did not.)

    Fiance had one older brother and I don’t think that contributed to him being childfree either.

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