(Closed) Curious, do you endorse relationship boundaries?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you endorse relationship boundaries?
    Yes : (240 votes)
    80 %
    No : (60 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 76
    Member
    54 posts
    Worker bee

    My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I don’t have any boundaries, and I love how we’re just super comfortable around each other 🙂 We’ve been together for 7.5 years, lived together for 3.

    #1 and #2 in front of each other isn’t an issue – not that we make a point to be around when it happens tho! He loves popping my pimples & blackheads, I use nosestrips on him, pluck his eyebrows, and remove his earwax (does anyone else do this or are we just SUPER weird?!), and we don’t mind personal grooming or doing anything else in front of each other for that matter. Altho he does like to tease me sometimes when I fart around him (not that it stops me !)

    All that being said, we somehow still find each other beautiful and sexy <3 Think I’ve found my soulmate – now if only he would stop dragging his feet with the proposal! But I know he’s planning something elaborate and it’ll probably happen within the next few months ^^

    Post # 77
    Member
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Pooping is a private thing with us, and we also respect each other’s online privacy. He doesn’t do the porn thing because he thinks it’s cheesy and lame, but I don’t need to see every man toy, gaming system, and gun he researches, and he doesn’t need to read every Weddingbee post I make complaining about his mother, lol. 

    Post # 78
    Member
    3050 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Nope, no boundaries…

    Post # 79
    Member
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes. 

    all toilet habits and hygiene things. Though we both clean teeth together before bed. I find I cringe when I read about couples spot popping etc. Blugh. 

    our phones are off limits other than if we need to grab a number etc. Snooping would be a major issue. Online passwords are off limits. 

    but we love our own space and hobbies etc. 

    Post # 80
    Member
    6 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2022

    My boyfriend does not believe in boundaries lol while I very much so do. We shower together but aside from that, he knows to keep his space in the bathroom. 

    Post # 81
    Member
    398 posts
    Helper bee

    My boyfriend has a sensor *not really but, ugh!* that alerts him whenever I need to poop.  I get to wee in private, unless there’s something in my bathroom he needs (separate bathrooms is THE BEST!!), but about 75% of the time I need to poo, he has something very important to ask/yell to me, and when he can’t hear me…I’m behind 2 closed doors…he comes in to chat.  It’s definitely not a deal breaker, but I never want to watch him poo…I can hear it, and that’s traumatizing enough!  Poor fella has bad gut health 🙁

    Post # 82
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    2348 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Skittles131:  We totally have limits. We still want to impress each other (after 7 years) and I feel like keeping a bit of mystery works for us. We never use the bathroom at the same time whether it’s for brushing teeth, shaving, or using the facilities. I just feel like we have much deeper emotional intimacy and pooping or shaving in front of each other isn’t going to add anything to our relationship. Like a pp mentioned they’re not “rules” more just that we both have the same boundaries naturally. 

    Post # 83
    Member
    67 posts
    Worker bee

    miijoo:  I totally agree with you. Lol we do all that. I don’t see a problem at all. Yes to the pimple popping and ear cleaning. Sometimes you need someone that will do all that regardless. We don’t think it’s gross at all, so you’re not alone.

    Post # 84
    Member
    54 posts
    Worker bee

    princesslex13:  *high five!* haha. We’ve always been very open with each other – physically, emotionally, mentally. Everyone shows love in different ways and has different levels of boundaries within their relationships, and that’s perfectly fine! 🙂

    Post # 85
    Member
    1273 posts
    Bumble bee

    #1 I don’t mind him being in the bathroom with me for… #2, not so much. I don’t like him being around when I’m messing with tampons or shaving, either. It is all about your comfort level.

    Post # 86
    Member
    1653 posts
    Bumble bee

    No #2’s in front of the SO, everything else is ok, pee, fart, burp and puke.

    Post # 87
    Member
    1320 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Skittles131:  The only boundary we have is your typical bathroom usage. It is not like he has NEVER seen me go to bathroom or vice versa, but on an everyday basis, we close the doors to go to the bathroom. When we both had food poisoning though, we got a lot closer hahahahah

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