(Closed) Curious – do your parents like your FI?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll:
    I have caught them trying to set FI on fire with their minds, a la FireStarter : (3 votes)
    2 %
    They are cordial but not crazy about him : (6 votes)
    4 %
    They have a so-so relationship : (6 votes)
    4 %
    They like him, in their way : (45 votes)
    26 %
    Are you kidding? If I wasn't marrying him they would! : (105 votes)
    61 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I think my parents would trade me for him if they could.  And that makes me soo jealous since his parents (well – really just his mom) is NOT wild about me.

    Post # 4
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    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

    I learned AFTER our engagement that my dad told Mr. Bruschetta when we’d been dating for a few years that HE knew he was the one — and now we just needed for me to realize that.  🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    yes, definitely!

    Post # 6
    Member
    774 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Int eh 6 years we’ve been together my parents have come to accept and respect my Fiance. They may not always agree with certain things, but it is clear they respect him for being so young and taking on being a stepfather to my children. In the past couple of years my mom has commended us and specifically him for being a good father figure. I think my father in particular respects the fact that he does what he can to provide for us. My ex-husband had a hard time holding down a real job. My dad thought he was lazy and with Fiance he sees him as a hard worker.

    My mom has mentioned before that my Fiance would not have been what she chose for me and that stung. But, you have to do what makes you happy and I know he is what I have chosen for myself.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    my mom knew my fi before me and tried to convince me to date him. she was there when i met him, and that whole night told me, “he owns a nice house, he has a great family, he has a good job, blah blah blah blah.” he can do no wrong!

    Post # 8
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    My dad is not a very demonstrative, outgoing person. He can be very hard to read. Sometimes, my brothers (one in particular) don’t even realize how much my dad loves them. I think it’s different with me because I’m a girl and I’m the youngest so I’ve spent the most time with my dad. I lived with him for 5 years after my mom died.

    My dad does really like my fiance, he just doesn’t show it. So my fiance isn’t so sure. Now if my mom were alive today, I’m not sure she would like him. She was a typical Italian, Catholic mother and no man would be good enough for me, especially not one that is not Italian or Catholic. Who knows though, I could be wrong.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My mom adores my Fiance and he and my dad are really good friends actually.  They golf together, watch sports together, all types of stuff.  I actually feel sort of bad sometimes because he seems closer to my dad than to his own!

    Post # 10
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    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Well after my last Fiance my parents think my guy hung the moon!  LOL.  But he’s hard not to like.  He is just such a nice guy and fun to be around. 

    Post # 11
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    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    When my now Fiance then Boyfriend or Best Friend met my mom, I had been prepping him for close to a month that mom is not the friendlist/kind/warm person.  Mom tends to be very matter of fact and very blunt with her words…needless to say he met my mom and she carried an hour conversation with him. 

    Later that evening he tells me I don’t know what you were so scared of your mom is nice.  That’s when I was convinced he was someone special.

    Almost 2 years later, my whole family loves him…I’m pretty sure they ask about him more than they do me. Laughing

    Post # 12
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    not my fiancee yet, but i’ve heard talk from my cousins that my mom talks about him all the time and adores him. lol!!! and she’s told me on more than one occasion that he’s her favorite boyfriend of all of the guys i’ve dated. i say me too 😀

    Post # 13
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    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    My parents and I are very different and my husband is a lot like me. They all get along and they love him dearly, they are just not close. My husband has a few stronger ideas about them but loves them for who they are and “puts” up with them… as do I! It’s hard cause we live so close to them (about an hour and a half) and so they expect us to come home a lot and like to just plan to “stop by” when they are in the City.

    His parents on the other hand, would have banished him if he did not marry me! His mom knew before we did!

    Post # 14
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    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    My parents definitely love my husband  – and I must say they told me as a young kid, they would love whoever I loved, regardless of race, financial status, etc, and they lived up to it.  My husband isn’t as intellectual as my parents, and certainly my husband and I have religious and political views that differ strongly from my parents, but overall they focus on the things they do like about him, and they respect that we are adults enough to not challenge the areas where we are different.

    Post # 15
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    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think that if your parents/family/close friends do not like your significant other that is a HUGE warning sign. My parents LOVE my FH, and that is really important, because when you get married they should be able to integrate into your family. I think that often when you are in a relationship you get your “rose colored glasses” on, and sometimes don’t see the issues that are apparent to everyone else!

    Post # 16
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    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My parents adore him. I don’t tell my parents anything about our disagreements.When we visit, my parents really dote on him. It’s sweet.

    It’s hard for me to tell because his folks are so different from mine, but I think they feel the same way about me.

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