Post # 1
So I have the sweetest, most trust-worthy hubby on the planet. He’s my whole world! But when we met he was with another girl. About 5 months down the road she dumps him to “do the sorority thing” (after cheating on him atleast twice & breaking up with him a couple of times to party). That was his first girlfriend/high school sweetheart, they dated for 3 years. We started dating (much to my dismay) about 2 weeks after they broke up. I told him I didn’t want to be a rebound bc I really liked him & wanted us to have a real shot, but he swore to me I wasn’t a rebound (that he didn’t even know what a rebound was). About 3 weeks into us dating DH’s Ex starts blowing up his phone wanting to get back together but he said he was way happier with me than he ever was with her.
Fast forward 4 years, we’re happily married but I still find myself checking the ex’s FB every once & a while… checking DH’s phone only for her texts (I know. awful)… they do talk like once every 6 months and she still doesn’t seem over him but he’s 100% over her. I honestly don’t check to see if he’s cheating, I just want to know what she’s saying to him! Am I an awful wife or is it normal to be curious? I am 100% not threatened by her, its just kind of like watching a train wreck (she’s said awful things about me from the beginning so I don’t have much sympathy for her)…. whats wrong with me!?
Post # 3
I think it’s normal to be curious but don’t snoop! Ask him about it… he’ll tell you.
Post # 4
It’s totally normal to be curious about her, but you need to get the snooping in check STAT.
He seems like a totally stand-up guy, and he’d probably be really hurt if he ever found out you’re going through his phone etc…
Cruising her fb isn’t technically hurtful to him, but it’s not doing you any good, so I think you should dial back on that too. Just focus on your relationship, and feel good knowing he chose YOU, not her, even when given the opportunity.
Post # 5
I totally know how you feel. When I met Fiance he had just broke up with his ex, or she actually broke up with him. 5 months later he actually cheated on me with her and now of course i’ve forgiven him and I trust him. But I try so hard to look at her FB which is why i’ve blocked it so I don’t have to see her ugly face lol. I also snoop and i’m trying really hard to stop even though Fiance knows I do. It’s a tough habit to break I know!
Post # 6
Agreed with PP’s. It’s totally normal to be curious. And most of us have FB stalked once or twice.. or more lol. But don’t snoop through his phone, that’s a bad habit and it’s disrespectful.
Post # 7
I totally agree, checking his phone is too much. He’s very open with me and if she texts him he’ll tell me but I’ll ask what about and he’ll say something like “nothing important” which leaves me a burning hole of curiousity lol (it almost always is nothing important unless its a drunk text, which are hilarious and sad & he either always shuts her down or doesn’t even respond, he’s fabulous). Not making excuses, I’m in the wrong here and am going to work on it. Thanks bees 🙂