Post # 1
My sister-in-law and I are not close at all. But she’s offended if I call her my sister in law, b/c she feels like its calling her “not family”.
its hard cuz i honestly barely know her and i have a blood sister who i’m super close to. Feels like she’s forcing a fake label on us. And besides, in law is an accurate description.
Post # 3
I call them by their first names. I never refer to them as BIL or SIL… unless speaking to other people about them. My SIL calls me ‘sister’ as does my DH’s SIL.
Post # 4
I voted SIL/BIL but I usually call them by their name, or I will say, “your brother” when talking to my husband. But they certainly aren’t MY brother or sister.
ETA: Yeh, even when I’m talking about having a meal with them, I still usually use their name. Most people I talk to about my lunch plans know who they are. 🙂
Post # 5
Interesting. I call them what they are – in-laws. I don’t find it disrespectful at all and to me, it clarifies for people whether they are blood relatives.
Post # 7
@oracle: yah, I should clarify… I do call them directly by name. Its more about when I talk ABOUT them. like, i’ll hear my Future Sister-In-Law “I’m going for coffee with my sister” while I would tell somebody that i’m going out with my sister in law.
Post # 8
I assume she means – when introducing them or referring to them … not what you actually call them. I don’t know anyone who calls them “Hey, brother in law”.
Post # 9
fixed. haha sorry that was a little confusing. I’d laugh if someone was all “yo- sister in law”
Post # 10
I call her by her first name.
But I refer to her as my SIL when I’m talking to someone who wouldn’t know her by name. I don’t think it’s disrespectful – it is what she is. She is not my sister; we are related by law/marriage. That doesn’t make her any less special to me though.
Post # 11
They’re in laws so thats what I call them. I mean, I refer to them as their first names (obviously) but to people who don’t know them, they are my “brother in-law” and “sister in-law”.
Post # 12
lol, yea, by their name. Sister-in-law or FI’s sister when talking about her to others.
I don’t call my own sister “Sister” 🙂
Post # 13
Usuaully, (sister)’s husband. Or brother. It’s close enough for me.
Post # 14
I just use their names! Or, I’ll say this is “Bob’s” brother “Jim” when introducing to others.
Post # 15
We’re not married yet, but usually I say they’re FI’s brothers, only I use FI’s name. That keeps it simple :).
Post # 16
You don’t want to know what i call my inlaws. but when i have to talk about/to them they are “your”/”his” family.