(Closed) Curious what other encores are paying for second wedding vs. your first

posted 11 years ago in Encore
Post # 62
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

First wedding, I was 23 and we paid for most of it ourselves. My parents pitched in where they could. It was about $5000.


This time, I’m 38 and we are eloping. I’m guessing it’s less than $1000 (not including rings).

Post # 63
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sadly, I don’t even know what my first wedding cost, because the groom’s parents paid for it all…and also decided on all the details. I have to guess it was around $12K though.

My second wedding is coming in under $3000 and we are paying for it ourselves. And WE are deciding on all the details!

Post # 64
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My parents paid for the first – not including rings or honeymoon is was $16K.

This time I’m paying for it, and not including rings or honeymoon (FI is paying for that), it will be around $3K.

We are having a courthouse wedding, and a picnic reception a few weeks after.  It’s not a big lavish affair, but it will still be fabulous and exactly what I want.

Post # 65
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

About $8,000 for my first wedding.  We’re budgeting $5,000 for this wedding.

Post # 66
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

First wedding was us and a few family members in the backyard. Probably spent around $60 not including the rings. They were pretty cheap, though. Mine came from walmart for $128 exactly and his was a simple white gold band for $80.

Anyway, this time we spent a whopping $600, lol. Seriously, it was awesome! We had it in the park with a picnic theme. I put waaay more effort into it by doing a lot of diys. All of our family and friends came and enjoyed themselves and we had enough food and drink for everyone. HA! $600 can go a long way in the right hands.

Post # 67
26 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

The first time I was 20, and we paid for it ourselves for about 30 guests…I think everything totaled less than $2000 (FYI, chicken picata at the Ramada Inn is wicked cheap!)  

This time I’m ‘solidly’ in my 30s, and we’re paying for most of it ourselves (this is FI’s first time), and the budget WAS $20k, but I think with all of the last minute buying and additions we’re closer to $30k.  His parents are kicking in $5k as their wedding gift, which will pay for the bar.  

Post # 68
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Hi Bees, my first wedding was paid entirely by my parents, and I think it came to about $5,000…I was 22, and found out I was pregnant 2 months into engagement so it got moved WAY up, necessitating my parents having to foot the bill (Irish-Catholic parents…enough said, right??).  This time around, Fiance and I are paying all ourselves, and it’s probably going to be around $20,000.  I’m fortunate enough that the style, order of the wedding, and budget allow me to have three dresses! So, this time around, I love having complete control over what we want, how we want it, and when to splurge/save.  Plus, FI’s mom is been helpful, so I think it might work out we might not have to pay all of it.  

@busybee, my mother is giving me not a hard time, but definitely disapproving looks about our supposedly “lavish” affair too!  Why is that??? 

Post # 69
13 posts

My first wedding we paid for the entire 10k ourselves. I did most of it all DIY by myself, but definitely had a lot more “over the top/trying to impress people” aspects that I wish I would not have wasted my money or more importantly my time doing. We made it into the lavish event that was never my dream wedding. Huge catholic ceremony with a custom made 100 ft asile runner with pew decorations on every single one of the 30++ rows. We had a ballroom reception with a band and DJ… customized everything. At the end of the night, I still wasn’t happy. Reflecting back, I think I was trying to throw everything I had into the wedding trying to convince myself us getting married was what I wanted (long story short, we had our daughter when we were 18, we got married on our 6 year dating anniversary and our daughter was 4 1/2 yrs old at the time)…. Anyways….. My 2nd wedding is my dream wedding. We are having a very simply out door wedding on my dad’s property under a large oak tree. Our budget is 5k for the wedding but 12k for the honeymoon…. Bora Bora, here we come! We both have finished school, have good jobs, and other than the mortgage payment no debit so we fell splurging on a good vacation it worth it.

Post # 70
8 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

First wedding was probably about $3-$4k (in 1992) – my sister made my dress, cheap cake, lunch reception, no dancing, no booze, horrible photographer, probably about 60-70 people there (almost all were relatives, with which I don’t really associate with) and my parent’s church friends.

This wedding ended up coming in at about $12k – and it was the best party ever! 🙂 Full dinner, dancing, full bar, gorgeous location, great dress, our friends, immediate family and those family members we do hang with, and a wonderful photog….and the groom was a HUGE upgrade from the first. 

Post # 71
24 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

My first wedding was around 50 people, my ex-husband paid for the majority of it, my parent’s paid for the rehearsal dinner and DJ. Total was about $10k.

FI’s first wedding was a quick courthouse wedding because he thought he was deploying to Iraq and a small VFW reception 6 months later for about $1500. His 2nd wedding was around 150 people and her family paid for it all, around $8k.

Our wedding (this time we got it right!!) we are budgeting between $4500-$5000 for around 125-150 people. We are getting married on our 4 year anniversary which happens to be a Friday so we are saving a lot of money this way. I had no idea until after we had chosen our date that Friday weddings were so much cheaper.

Post # 72
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My first one (1985) I wore my mothers gown…paid 200 for church and organist, finger food reception at grandparents house,  maybe 50 guests…My grandparents paid for it, and knowing them,  it wasn’t a lot of money…maybe a few hundred..

This time,  I think we’ll come in around 7K  I hope.  It’s FI’s first wedding so he wants it to be a party, which I’m very happy about ..It’s what I wanted the first time, but didn’t get, but I beleive things happen for a reason,  and my Fiance is the reason!!!

Post # 73
4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

First wedding $75 (license and lunch for four people).


Second wedding ~$6,000 (11 day road trip weddingmoon which included the elopement with photography, everything basically, even attire)

Post # 74
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My parents paid for the first one when I was 21–about $9k! But I didn’t get to make a single decision except our colors! (My dad is very controlling when it comes to money)

THis time around we are paying and our budget was $14k, but now we’re at about $18-19k (not including rings & honeymoon) But we get to make all the decisions!!! (my dad on the other hand, won’t even wear what I asked him to or stop complaining about having to stay near the venue for one night)

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