Post # 17
My mom’s dress was gorgeous–for her wedding. It’s an unadorned straight-cut gown with a high neckline and long sleeves. It was perfect for a conservative Catholic wedding in the late 60’s. I’m just having a totally different wedding. I’ve never asked her if she still has the dress, but I should–I’d love to see it in person!
Post # 18
My mother never wore one.
Post # 19
I kind of figured since the advent of polyester dresses that this wasn’t a tradition anymore.
I never thought about wearing my mother’s dress. It has sleeves and is dated and she didn’t have it preserved so it’s been stuffed into a closet for almost 40 years. Plus she and I have totally different body types she is 5 inches taller than me and weighed probably 20 pounds less at the time.
Post # 20
My mum was smaller than I am so it wouldn’t fit, it was made by my nan for mum’s English wedding so it is very English, long sleeves and warm – I am getting married in winter so I guess that wouldn’t be soooo bad. Also thou mum lent her dress to 3 other couples and all 3 are now divorced so it (to me) is bad luck, my parents were the only happily married couple to come out of that dress with 29 years before my dad passed.
Post # 21
1. because it’s super-80s and not my style.
2. because she didn’t even love it that much herself- she wanted to try a different one but the bridal shop wouldn’t let her
3. She’s about 6 inches taller than me. I’d drown in it.
Post # 22
doesn’t fit right! My hips are a little wider than hers were, but my waist is narrower. plus, she didn’t have a train and I’m taller than she is!
Post # 23
my mom dyed hers red and wore it to a big gala- said she even got some compliments from some actors!
I’m not sure where it is now? I would have loved to wear any hand-me-down as I can’t justify spending that much on myself.
Post # 24
I’d never be able to! My mom was a size 0 in 1987 and 2 months pregnant lol I’m a ‘today’s size’ 4-6 sooo ya haha
ETA: My mom’s dress is actually one of the best 80s/90s dresses I’ve ever seen! I’m hoping its in good condition so I can add her skirt into my dress.
Post # 25
My mom’s dress was gorgeous (despite getting married in 1981) and I would have worn it buuuut she was teeny tiny when she got married and it was ruined when our basement flooded when I was little. They did use some of the lace from it to make me a dress when I was 3 or 4.
Post # 26
Mom’s dress was 1970’s, high neck, long poofy sleeves. She made it herself. I just don’t like it. And since I’m the 3rd, and neither sister wore it either, I’m in the clear!
Post # 27
@Zusie – I am not sure why polyester would stop the tradition? But you are right – it seems to be less of a tradition than I thought it was.
So – this has been very interesting – thank you for your comments! I added a poll trying to sum up the main reasons – but feel free to comment as well!
And MAN! I guess I should count my blessings! When my mom got married, she was 5’5″ and 130 (ish) lbs. (I am 5’8″ and definitely much more than 130) When I first tried on her dress (over a year ago), it was too tight around the hips…..but becuase of its shape, I knew it was doable for me to get into it. A year later and 25 lbs lighter, it (mostly) fits. I used to (jokingly) bitch that mom was too skinny when she got married…but thank god she was not a size 0!! There is no way I could squeeze my ample rear into a dress that small!
Post # 28
I never considered wearing hers.
I wanted my own dress. I had enough hand-me-downs growing up. 🙂
EDIT: …so I didn’t vote
Post # 29
I voted for the first, second and last options.
Post # 30
My mom was 99 lbs when she got married. It’s so 80s. Poofy sleeves. And I want my own dress for my wedding.
I never understood why people would wear their mother’s dress.
Post # 31
My mom is a tiny lady who was even tinier when she got married, so even if her dress was wearable, it would probably get stuck around my armpits….
I’m glad I wasn’t expected to have her dress be a serious contender. It’s not an ugly dress by any means, it’s just very dated. She was married in 1981.