(Closed) Curious – why AREN’T you wearing your mom’s dress?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Why aren't you wearing your Mom's dress?

    It does not fit.

    I can't stand the style

    mom never had a "special" wedding dress

    the dress was used for another special occasion

    mom got divorced and wearing her dress is inappropriate

    the condition is so poor I could not wear it

  • Post # 47
    64 posts
    Worker bee

    There wasn’t an option for me: 

    My Mum was never married to my Dad.  The wedding dress she has was from her wedding to my Stepfather.  It would be wierd for me to wear that dress, but then again I don’t think she’ll offer it to my half-sister to wear either (more appropriate being as she’s the daughter of my Mum and Stepfather).  My Mum made her dress herself the night before her wedding, along with two bridesmaid’s dresses, because her SIL, who was supposed to be making the dresses let her down at the last minute! I think she’d want better for my Sister and I, and she and my stepfather are in a position to offer us help with the cost of our weddings if we need it.  My Sister probably will take them up on it.  I probably won’t.

    I love my Grandma’s wedding dress, but she was tiny when she wore it and it’s sixty years old, so it’s quite delicate now.  However, when the time comes to find my dress I’d like to have something very similar.  I may well take pictures of it, or even take the dress itself, dress shopping with me!

    Post # 48
    3132 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    My mom is four inches taller than me, and she was a bit skinnier than me when she got married, too.  We also have completely different body shapes…  I’m a DD cup, but she’s only a B.  Thus, even though I could fit into the dress (barely), it just didn’t look right on me.

    More importantly, I really didn’t like the style.  It wasn’t me at all.  It was, however, very early ’80s.

    I did wear it after alterations to the rehearsal, though!

    Post # 49
    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Because it was the 80s and it was a two piece set.  I’m sure it is very pretty, but it’s just not my style.

    Post # 50
    1741 posts
    Bumble bee

    Interesting question and interesting that so many of us are so much larger than our moms were when they got married. I too fall into that category. Although my mom’s dress has since been lost so it was not an option for me to wear, I would have loved to have worn my grandmother’s wedding dress. If only she were not 5’0″ and 107 lbs. when she got married. The color has changed since preserving entailed a plastic bag in the spare room for several years but it was a nice simple dress from the 1940s with the only detailing on the sleeves in the form of lace insets. After clearing it with my mom and aunts, I removed one sleeve and gave it to the florist to wrap around my boquet and really loved having that piece of her with me at the wedding.

    Post # 51
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @slicey19:  I think at least part of the reason I’m bigger than my mom is because I’m 30 years old, and she was married at 20.  Now, when I was 20, I don’t think I was as small as she was at 20, but I played rugby & lacrosse in college so I have a more muscular frame than she does.

    Post # 52
    134 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My mom never had a wedding dress… courthouse wedding in January… and my sister arrived in March. 

    Post # 53
    1945 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My mom has been married and divorced twice, and from what I know, she didn’t wear a “special” dress either time. And if she did, she definitely doesn’t have it anymore. And even if she did, she was waaaaaaay smaller than me in the 70s and 80s when she got married, so there’s no way it would have fit. 

    Post # 54
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My mom’s wasn’t preserved properly so it is damaged and discolored.. but we are incorporating pieces of it into a quilt!

    Post # 55
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I really like my mom’s dress, it is really simple and has this adorable flower child vibe going on, but it is super hot and has full sleeves and a high collar…I’d have to do so much to it just to make it work! So…none of the above?

    Post # 56
    1811 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I read this and thought “Why would I ever want to wear my mother’s wedding dress?!”. I feel like it’s a rite of passage to pick your own dress, and go through all of those dress emotions. My mother actually wore her sister’s wedding dress…and as a young girl (10 or so?) I remember asking her “why did you wear Aunt ___’s dress? didn’t you want your own?” and she said she loved her sister and loved the dress…that couldn’t ever make sense to me (the thought, in addition to my grandpa being well off and his daughters sharing a dress)…and to reverse it, I wouldn’t ever let anyone wear my wedding dress (when I have one). I feel like it’s a personal/emotional purchase. 

    Post # 57
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My mom does not even know where hers ended up lol. Also my parents have been divorced for 10 years so would be odd

    Post # 58
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My mom’s first wedding dress would be inappropriate to wear because she got divorced.  When she married my dad, she wore a lace skirt suit.  From the early 1990s (my parents got married when I was 4).  That’s all I think I need to say about that.

    Post # 59
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My mom’s dress, while pretty, is SUPER 80s. It just wasn’t my taste at all, plus I really wanted to have my own dress. Even if I had wanted to wear my mom’s dress I couldn’t— my grandmother wore it when she got remarried (when I was 2) and it mysteriously disappeared, lol.

    Post # 60
    1525 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My mom’s dress (aside from the long sleeves and the HUGE train) was actually exactly what I initially wanted – a fitted gown with lace overlay. 

    But… my mom is much smaller than me – shorter by about a foot, and she was teeny when she got married. I, on the other hand, am… not teeny. I was wearing some of her old dresses in 7th/8th grade.

    I think she really wanted me to at least try it on, and I guess we could have had a seamstress take it apart and redesign it… but I didn’t go for it. :  And it would have needed extra work because I’m sure it’s aged.

    Post # 61
    514 posts
    Busy bee

    I have several reasons.

    1.  My mom borrowed it from my Aunt, and then gave it back to her afterwards.

    2.  My Mom is four inches shorter than me and weighed about 15 lbs less than me when she got married.

    3.  It has long sleeves, so totally not my style.

    4. It’s white and I want to wear pink.

    5. Both my Mom and my Aunt got divorced. 

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