(Closed) Curious – why AREN’T you wearing your mom’s dress?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Why aren't you wearing your Mom's dress?

    It does not fit.

    I can't stand the style

    mom never had a "special" wedding dress

    the dress was used for another special occasion

    mom got divorced and wearing her dress is inappropriate

    the condition is so poor I could not wear it

  • Post # 91
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    No for 3 reasons: Mom was 19 when she got married, and I’ll be 40. While I’m thin, my waist is not where near her size! Also, unfortunately, the dress has discolored over the years (1961 wedding), and since my parents divorced, I do feel like there’s a little bit of bad mojo there.

    I *am* wearing her garter, though- old and blue taken care of in one shot!

    Post # 92
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    Sugar bee

    It wouldn’t fit. I also wouldn’t say I can’t stand the style because it looked beautiful on her, but it’s not my style personally.

    Post # 93
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    For me it’s a combination of it not fitting *super* great (but it could easily be altered) and me not liking the style on me. The style itself is pretty…empire waist, simply and flowy…but I’m not a fan of the pleats, and I don’t like the way empire waists look on me. In the end it would have been too much to alter. So I’m just wearing her veil instead 🙂

    Post # 94
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My reasons are three-fold:

    1) There’s NO way it fits.  I’m a good 6 inches taller than my mom (and both of my grandmas, too.)

    2) Not my style at all

    3) Neither my mom’s dress nor my grandmother’s dress has been well-preserved and, while still in wearable condition, are definitely showing their age.

     

    I *AM* using some of the buttons from my grandmother’s dress on my own.

    Post # 94
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If i asked my mom to wear her dress she would probley laugh at me. She even agrees it was pretty bad. High neck, long sleeves..you know the kind.

    But my grandmas….If i was a size zero, I would wear it, its beautiful!!!! Simple strapless lace gown, with a long lace “coat” kinda thing over top, it would be perfect for a winter wedding.

    Post # 95
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @garden_bride:  Thank you, that’s very sweet.  She was an angel.

    Post # 96
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would if she would have kept it. I have no clue what happened to it, I just know she doesn’t have it anymore. 

    Post # 97
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    Honey bee

    1) She weighed 105lbs on her wedding day.  I…….don’t.

    2) It was not well-preserved and has yellowed.

    3) It had long sleeves and a hoop, neither of which I was looking for in a dress.

    I will be cutting a piece of hers out to sew into the inside of mine, though, for my something old. 🙂

    Post # 98
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My mom and dad got married in Reno spur of the moment; she just got married in a cream and pink dress borrowed from her sister, and it is hideous. Plus, she was 99 pounds (even though she had just given birth a few months before), and I’m 130 so there is no way that would have worked. Here is a pic of them on their wedding day (sorry the pic is ginormous), but I think it’s adorable :):

    Post # 99
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Presumably, my mom got rid of her first wedding dress (from when she married my real dad; they split after 17 years) a long time ago. I wouldn’t know where it went. Her “wedding dress” from when she married my stepdad was actually a regular denim one with a floral pattern at the neckline. (Their color scheme was burgundy red and denim blue if that tells you anything.) However, even if my wedding were to be casual enough for me to wear that, I could not as we are not near the same size. (She’s a plus size, and I pass for an eight or ten depending on how the garment in question is made.) She has offered to make my dress for me when the time for that comes (mostly for economical reasons), but I haven’t decided yet if I’m going to take her up on that or not.

    Post # 100
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    My mom wore a gray skirt and jacket and a fancy hat- they had a court-house wedding. If she still had it and the cut wasn’t too bad, I’d probably have considered it for my elopement.

    Post # 101
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My mom doesn’t have hers anymore. Even if she did, I wouldn’t wear it because she only wore a dress suit 😛

    Post # 102
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My mother’s dress was handmade by my grandma, but it was from her first marriage (not to my dad) and is  to big for me. My younger sister and my mom are much closer (in relationship and size) so she might be interested in wearing one of mom’s two wedding dresses someday. I thought about wearing my grandma’s dress (knee length A-line) as a “leaving the reception dress” but it was from 1950 was never stored and fell apart. Plus all these dress came from unhappy marriages so I’m thinking I’m better off wtih my own.

    Post # 103
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Not my style- poofy sleeves, satin, and sequins! I could probably alter it to be something I like more (except I really don’t think I want satin at all) but I’d rather leave it be and get my own dress than hack it up and still not be 100% happy. Plus, her sister wore it after her so I think it’s been altered down to skinny-minny sizes. I tried it on once and it fit but that was in high school before I got fat :p

    Post # 104
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wore my mothers dress for my high school grad, she dyed it pink and she did a few alterations to it. It was her idea for me to wear it for grad.

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