Current job/transition affecting health

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Do you live in the US? If so, you are NOT required to give a 2 months notice in 99.9% of situations.

Sounds like you should maybe be pursuing other jobs while you wait. Yea, it might be a waste of time but I think it would be a healthy distraction. And on the off chance the new role doesnt get approved, you’ll have a head start on looking for something else.

Im sorry youre dealing with this. Bad work environments can be soul crushing. I hope youre free soon!

Post # 3
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Honey bee

Did you sign a contract that says you have to give 2 months?  It seems really out of the ordinary to have to give that much notice.  

If it is affecting you that much and you legally have to give 2 months notice, I would put in your notice now and really start looking for another job.  Find temp work that can fill in the gaps if there are any.  

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

The 2 month thing is throwing me off.  How can you expect any new employer to hire you and then be expected to wait 2 months for you to start. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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otterbee :  I am and have been where you are so I know the feeling. I’m currently somewhat in that “checked out phase” as I accepted a position elsewhere and told my director a couple days ago. Per my union, we have to give a month’s notice otherwise it comes out of our accrued vacation time (I’m moving from one state employer to another, so my time will transfer over). When I first started working with my current employer, I was verbally offered a position in early September of the year and then a hiring freeze hit. So I didn’t get the official offer letter until December of that year and started working with them in January after the holidays. During that wait, I didn’t stop applying to other jobs because I knew there was a chance that things could fall through. Even though you may not want any other opportunity as much, you can’t put all of your eggs in one basket.

What led to my accepting this new position was waking up and realizing that I don’t need to keep putting up with a toxic work environment. I deserve better. And that also extends to self care. I’ve just started working out again. I made a huge effort to change my diet last year and I’ve been pretty good about it but got off track with my birthday and way too much cake earlier this month, but I’m back on track. Maybe just make small changes here and there, like prepping a healthy breakfast each morning or packing a good lunch. I do most of my cooking on the weekends so that I don’t have to prepare anything except maybe sides (rice, veggies) on week nights. Start with small changes. It will all add up in time. Good luck! 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I know it sucks waiting, but getting all this stuff approved takes time. I interviewed for a position that was already there and open to be filled and it still took about 3mos from interview to getting started. If they are creating a position, it could easily take 6 weeks, so just be patient! And good luck! I hope it all works out

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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otterbee :  Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of the bad situation until you’re out of it, so don’t blame yourself for taking so long. Just be grateful that you’re finally ready to make a change. I’m sorry to hear about your medical difficulty, and that it was actually better than work! 

I know the feeling of going through the motions, just getting by from one day to the next. It’s a bad place to be in. I don’t know about you, but the weather has a huge impact on my mood and this winter combined with everything I was going through was tough on me. Now that it’s warming up and there’s sun again, I’m feeling SO much better, even while I’m still in my toxic work environment and facing some difficult circumstances. I’m not sure what season you’re in but I hope that better weather is on the way and will be a mood boost for you too!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

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otterbee :    Did the new employer give you a timeline? It would be fair to ask them for an update on next steps. If they have to wait for fiscal planning or a budget process, things could take a while. It would not be unreasonable to ask about timelines!

You mentioned being required to give 2 months notice otherwise having to repay a recruiting fee. Does the new employer know about this? 

I’m not sure if requiring 2 months notice is legally valid where you are, but if it is, you can attempt to negotiate this a few ways when it comes time: you can contact the recruiting agency to see if they can assist with a new placement for your employer or help negotiate it down. You can try to work directly with your current employer and ask to reduce the time. This can best be accomplished by agreeing what a good transition plan looks like and putting together an agreed list of deliverables. 

Another option is asking your new employer to offset this penalty. You could share with them the 2 month requirement, and suggest that you would be able to start sooner if they would consider giving you a signing bonus to offset the penalty. Keep in mind that your new employer may be perfectly willing to wait; the benefit for you is getting out of your current job faster & the benefit to the new employer is getting started sooner. Only you can decide if this is a conversation worth having.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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otterbee :  You will feel so much better when you are gone. Do you have any PTO saved up that you could use and get a letter in writing from your new boss? I was in a crappy first job (1-working night shift; people whom I worked with on that shift were cruel). I basically became depressed from that place. I cut my hours back to as needed until I could get out. I took the first contract elsewhere and I am glad I did!  It took me a few months along with planning a wedding to feel normal again. Hard to believe I have been off of night shift again. My husband would rather have me have energy and be happy even if I’m down to 2 shifts a week (I work 12 hour shifts). Could you take a temporary job elsewhere? or get them to fast track you in? See if your new company would be willing to help with the fees to start you sooner?

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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otterbee :  why don’t you keep your options open and job search elsewhere? 

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