Post # 1
Curious to know what the hive thinks.
My sister has a 4 year old son and a few days ago I was with her and my parents. My nephew was not listening to her and all of a sudden she screamed at him and said “You are so f**king annoying!!! You are f**king pissing me the f**k off [child’s name]! I am not happy!!!” My parents weren’t nearby but I was…and it just did not sit well with me at all and made my eyes almost pop out of their sockets. I mean, I know it is none of my business to tell her how to discipline or treat her child but, man. I don’t have children myself (not yet), but I just feel and know I won’t ever do that to them. I can’t. I am completely against it.
What’s your take on cursing in front of or cursing at your children?
Post # 3
@NYCkindaBee: Cursing in front of your children teaches them the behavior is okay. Cursing at your children teaches them the behaviors is okay and also does a number on their ability to be productive humans.
Therefore, cursing stinks.
That is all.
Post # 4
@NYCkindaBee: Yikes….I don’t have kids but no way would I talk to a child like that. They will likely end up being a reflection of you, so……..
Post # 5
That is absolutely not ok in my book. I’d have probably said something to her.
I dont really care if people cuss lightly in front of their kids, as long as they arent directing it towards them. But I’d stay away from the harsher words.
Post # 6
Wow, no.. that’s not okay. It’s not only that she was cursing AT the child, its also the anger and aggression that she was displaying towards him by doing so. That definitely would not be okay with me either.
Children are very.. impressionable. They’re easily influenced and tend to take on the traits and behaviors of the people theyre around. Imagine how badly that kid will act out or go into a rage when something doesnt go his way.
Post # 7
@NYCkindaBee: We would never curse in front of DS or any child, nor do I think any parent should.
Post # 9
That is not cursing in front of children, that is cursing AT a child, and there is a huge different. When I first read the title of your post I was thinking you meant two adults saying “bad words” while their children were in the room. My parents cursed all of the time in front of us. My sister has a mouth like a sailor now, but I was kind of disgusted by it growing up, so now I rarely curse. I don’t think cursing or not cursing in front of a child will change them at all. My SO’s parents would never curse, but he has such a foul mouth on him!
Your sister f-bombing your nephew repeatedly is completely inappropriate. Even to treat a child that way without the cursing is pretty terrible, but it will make him feel bad about himself and he will probably act out more because of it. Don’t be surprised if your nephew starts acting out in school or at home. Your sister should probably pay more attention to what he actually needs before she lashes out on him because it’s just going to create a viscious cycle. He’s always going to be begging her for the attention that he is craving which may come off as annoying, and then she will lash out on him.
Post # 10
I don’t curse, and I think it is sort of hypocritical saying children shouldn’t curse when adults do all the time.
It is not like it is an “adult thing”, cursing is never good, in my opinion.
So noooo, cursing infront of children is not OK!
Nor fighting or discussing money issues. Those are things parents need to keep to themselves.
Post # 11
@allyfally: Yeah, I tried saying something to her one time and it did not go down well with her. Also my sister and I are not that close at all. And things get awkward.
Post # 12
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I definitely don’t think it’s okay. My parents never swore around me and I rarely ever swear and I never do around children (or people other than my FI). I don’t think it’s appropriate to swear at or around children. My mom is a kindergarten teacher and I used to volunteer in her classes. It was amazing how many kids could use swear words perfectly in a sentence, but never said please or thank you. Kids pick up on things so quickly and a lot of the times parents don’t think their kids ever hear them do it or think that they don’t swear enough to have their kids notice. I remember once we were on a day trip with my little 3 year old cousin and my aunt, uncle, and my mom and my little cousin all of a sudden yelled to my uncle “Shut up! You’re an a**hole and stupid”. Like whoaa. He even called my uncle by name and it really sounded like he was recreating a fight he overheard. Kids will repeat anything at the worst times aha even if you think they forgot.
Post # 13
My mom has ALWAYS said the f-bomb in front of me, but not TO me like that!! I think, personally, it’s sad that she not only feels that way (ok, that can be understandable I guess), but to TELL him she feels that way about him.. I can’t help but think “poor kid”.
Post # 14
Totally agree with the both of you.
Post # 15
@glitter-girl: I know, that’s how I feel about it too. She made me cringe when she did that to him.
Post # 16
Once I hit a certain age where it was obvious I knew the words already and knew better than to repeat them all over, my parents started cursing at me sometimes.
I am really (maybe over-) sensitive to raised voices and harsh language… sometimes that upsets me more than real punishments do… it worked well to discipline me but it stung, though I guess discipline is supposed to haha.