(Closed) Curvy bride, skinny groom.. Worried about engagement and wedding photos

posted 9 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am worried about the same thing. My Fiance is  6 feet tall and 200lbs, so i guess he is not super skinny, but he looks a normal weight for his height. I on the other hand am 5’2 and 230lbs so i am MUCH rounder than he is. I hope i dont look too disproportionate in pictures. I know i wont be doing any of the sitting on his lap or picking me up pics because i think it is just going to highlight our difference in size.

Post # 5
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Same issue here (almost identical on sizes). I am also going vintage. I think I am just going to research poses that will put him in the forefront instead.

Post # 6
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I actually think the purple dress will give you a better shape than the pink top. The cut and the belt will define your waist, whereas the shape of the pink top seems like it will actually make you appear bigger than you are. I like the purple too!

Post # 7
1456 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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@annmarieinct:  I agree, I think that flowy tops have the potential to look unflattering because it just sort of drapes over you, and could accentuate “big”ness. (please don’t take offense, I’m pretty much the same size as you and just speaking from personal experience!) The dress could define your features and give you a waist, while hiding the other parts. I had a similar style vintage-y dress, and if it has layers of poof underneat then get them taken out. It definitely helped me!

I also worry about the curvy bride/skinny groom thing 🙁 I am 5’3″ and currently a size 14ish/16, and Fiance is much tinier than me. 31×30. I don’t really have e-pics in the works right now, but when I do I’m probably going to ask for mostly waist up or chest up pictures, or pictures where something obscures my body (him, a bench, anything lol)

Also, I am in LOVE with those dresses you posted… would you mind linking me to them?

Post # 8
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am 5’4″ and 165 and he is 5’11” 150. We took engagement pictures, and they turned out fantastic.

Being a curvy bride, I recommend not standing in front of him. The ones of my Fiance and I where I stood in front of him didn’t look right. Some nice poses to do would be to wrap your arms around him from behind or ones of the two of you walking. We also did some where he dipped me back, which looks adorable. A picture we used for our invites we just stood together with our faces pressed together looking at the camera.

If you need me to post pics, I would be more than willing to do that for you 🙂

By the way, that pinkish-purplish top is adorable and would probably really flatter your body type. That is a similar style I had for my engagement pics. You can still do vintage type photos wearing that. Maybe you could get the dress and do some photos in that too? That dress could be a nice rehearsal dinner dress as well.

Post # 9
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the dress will look really nice on you. I love the neckline. If you are uncomfortable about him looking dimunitive, maybe go with the black dress and accent with brighter accessories and have him in a brighter shirt and slacks to balance it out?

Post # 10
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, it’s not really a worry for me about wedding, but in life generally. DH’s dad was a horse racing jockey/currently a horse trainer. So… DH is pretty thin. However, I’m not anywhere near that thin. I worry a lot sometimes that people think we might look silly together. I do sometimes worry that I looked fat in my wedding photos. But honestly, the day of — I never thought about it. It was wonderful.

Sometimes it bugs me that I didn’t lose more weight before the wedding. (I turned in my MA thesis 5 days beforehand, so I actually *gained 5 lbs in the 2 weeks before the wedding out of stress.) However, We still look super happy in our photos. Because we were!

My point: Don’t worry yourself about things that really don’t matter. If you want to lose weight or something for yourself or your health – that’s a different story. Go for it, but don’t compare yourself to FH/DH too much. ; )

I’m throwing up two of our wedding photos so you can see that it’s probably not as big of a deal as I thought it would be.



Post # 11
1089 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

When SO and I met he was 175 and I was 225, then he gained 50 and I gained 15, then we dieted and at one point I was lighter than him (for like a week lol) but now he’s 185 and still losing, but I’m at 210. I’m hoping to be lighter than him for the wedding (maybe even epics, if he keeps me waiting like this!) but if I’m not then I don’t think the pics will be that awful. You will look beautiful on your wedding day so don’t stress!

Post # 12
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@Mrs.LemonDrop:  You are GORGEOUS! Seriously–those pictures are beautiful and you looked fantastic!


Post # 15
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

You’d be surprised with what a photographer can do with angles and shadows. Maybe you could discuss this privately with him/her so that you don’t end up feeling uncomfortable?

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