(Closed) Custody Issues 59 Days From Wedding! *SCREAM*!!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh wow. Hugs for you. I’m dealing with custody issues right now but nothing near what you’re dealing with. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. I’ve been dealing with the family court system for 14 years. Jersey is a tough state. Even if I can’t help, I’m more than willing to let you just vent or bounce ideas.

It’s never fun with or without an impending wedding.

Post # 4
1325 posts
Bumble bee

My mother has to deal with a crazy nasty ex wife too. This mother has been using her children as pawns against their dad (my mother’s husband) and playing head games with them for the last 7 or 8 years. It’s a mess! Even after being divorced from my step dad for about 11 years…this crazy woman will not let it go and is unrelenting.

I really really wish you the best and hope this issue resolves quickly.

By The Way, on the education issue. Even if the education at the school in your area isn’t as good, that can be remedied with alternatives. If she studies hard, looks for after school programs, and uses resources like the library she’ll be fine. Most intelligent people I know all say they didn’t learn anything in school, it was mostly just for social interaction…which they hated.

Post # 5
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

WOW ((HUGS)) its messed up that you have to go through this so close to your day. I am def covering you and your family in prayer.

My advice, rememeber that your Fiance issues become yours once your married. he sounds like an awesome daddy and wants whats best for his daughter. This sounds like it would be an easy court case due to the mom’s mental issues. So just be strong, support him and his daughter and try not to let this ruin your day. Stay encouraged!!!!

Post # 6
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsCypresstobe:  *HUGS*

Is there a court date set? Is there a way you can call social services and get emergency custody? Does the daughter want to go back?

Can you call the police and SS and report the episode she had and let them know about it so at least it is on paper and you can give that to the court?

Is there a way the daughter can come back to you and your Fiance and just take honors classes?

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I really am.

All you can do is lay down the law with her. If she gets nasty, hang up?

Post # 7
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sending my prayers up for you and your family.  I’m sorry you have to go through this.  Since your Fiance has temporary custody, her threat shouldn’t be an issue.  Your Fiance should be able to request emergency temporary custody for an extended time.  Make your lawyer work for you. 

Post # 9
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

@MrsCypresstobe: Glad you’re more at ease and feeling some peace right now! I’ll definitely be praying for you guys! I know that God takes care of his kids and that you and your FH will have the favor needed for her to be in a good place. Education really starts AFTER grade school anyways, but having a stable home enviroment is necessary all throughout for a child to have what’s needed to succeed. I think that the enviroment ya’ll can provide her FAR exceeds what she could gain in education at her moms. And yes, children like structure… just like we do.. could you image if every day was a mess and we didn’t know when/what needed to be done how to act/take care of it but just that it needed to be done?.. pfft that gets old after awhile. lol

Goodluck to you and your family! Will be praying.. keep us updated =)

Post # 10
1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Not to be nosy, but what’s the issue with her wanting money? Is your Fiance having problems keeping up with his support payments? Not that that would justify her bananas behavior obvs. She kinda sounds like my mom (threatening to involve the cops etc) is her mental issue manic depression/bipolar? I feel for your future step-daughter, that’s a tough environment to deal with.


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