Post # 1
I had a hell of a time finding a bolero that fit my needs (3/4 sleeve, chiffon with lace details) so I opted to get one custom made. A close friend hooked me up with one of her friends (I know her as well since we all went to school together) who is a fashion designer. I’ve seen some of her work before and while some of the stuff isn’t really my style, she is talented. We discussed what I was looking for and she assured me that it would be a piece of cake.
Over the last month or so I’ve gone in for 2 fittings. It wasn’t until today that I saw the final product. I pretended to love it since I have a hard time hurting peoples feelings but to be honest… I’m just not sure. For starters, I’m kind of irked at the designer. She made a pretty MAJOR change to the bolero without even telling me. When we had first sat down to pick out fabrics I selected a lovely ivory chiffon and a “coordinating” lace which was going to outline the bolero (keep in mind, these were fabrics that she had pulled for me to choose from). Today when I saw my bolero, it had a different lace. The designer said “the lace we originally picked wasn’t going to match so I went with this instead”. Um… I wasn’t even contacted. Shouldn’t I have made that call or atleast been privy to that bit of information. To be honest, I’m pissed. I chose the original lace because it looked like the lace in my dress. The new lace had these pearl accents and my dress is pearl-less. Don’t get me wrong, it’s pretty but it’s not what I wanted.
Then I go and put the bolero on and it doesn’t stay up. It feels like it has no structure. The front thats supposed to be covering the sides of my chest are drooped down lower than my armpits. The only way that I’ll be able to wear the bolero is if we pin it to my dress.
The really cherry came when I got home and went to put the bolero in my closet. I turned the clear bag around to look at the back and to my surprise I find a pen line. 2″ of blue ink towards the bottom of the bolero. When I tried it on in her shop I wasn’t close enough to the mirror to see it but it’s pretty damn noticable. I’m not a happy camper.
If the designer was a stranger I wouldn’t hesitate to complain but this is a close friend of a close friend. Even if I did take it back to her there’s nothing she could do. It took weeks for her to make this so there’s no way that anything can be done in the 5 days that we have left. There’s no time to fix it so I’ll just have to roll with it. I’m not happy by any means but I’m trying not to freak out. I’ve yet to see it with my dress (that’ll be tomorrow) so I may be pleasantly surprised but I kinda doubt it. I spent another $60 to overnight a chocolate brown 3/4 sleeve cardigan for me to change into for the reception since I doubt I’ll want to wear a pinned, mismatched bolero for very long.
This did nothing for my stress levels.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that has happened. No bride needs the last minute aggravation.
Have you thought of using double sided tape to secure the bolero to your dress? no obvious pins or pin marks!
Post # 4
ugg. Boleros are hard to fit in general, and your experience just made me even more nervous about ordering online or trying to get one made. Sucks that you only have five days and are stuck having to redo something you already paid for and thought you had crossed off the list.
Could you maybe say something to your friend? It seems like this gos beyond frendor issues to super unprofessional.
Post # 5
@julies1949: Good call. I’ve been using basic double sided tape for a lot of my DIY projects but I don’t know if that would be strong enough to hold. Is there a certain kind that I should look for?
@justelope: I’m not re-doing anything. There’s no time. I’m just going to have to live with what I have and hope for the best. I’m going to pick up my dress today so I’ll get to see everything together. Fingers crossed that it looks better than I think it’s going to. As for saying something to my friend, we’ll see how many mimosas I have when we’re getting ready, lol.
Post # 6
So, it appears this just gets worse…
My mom and I went to the salon today so I could try on my dress and she could learn how to bustle and corset it. I was so nervous about how the bolero was going to look with it that I had that constantly gonna puke feeling the whole way there. I hadn’t told my mom about the ink yet since I knew she’d freak if she couldn’t see it so I waited until we are at the salon. She was noticibly pissed and asked the salon girls (who, btw, have been beyond amazing) if they knew of any way to get ink out of the bolero. While I was in getting the dress on, the girls assessed the damage and determinded that the designer had obviously already tried to get it out. She friggin knew about it and still didn’t say anything. I mean, I know it would have been an awkward conversation for her to have but she had to have known I’d find it eventually. I was giving her the benefit of the doubt, thinking that maybe she didn’t know about the ink but now I’m even more angry than I was before. And guess what… that’s not even the worse part.
I put the bolero on with the dress and to be honest, it looked nice. I still would have preferred the other lace but this one will do. My mom walked around the back of me and made one of those “deer in headlights” faces. The back was f’ing lopsided. I lost it. I started crying right there in the salon. Thankfully the salon girls are amazing and there were only a few other customers in there so I didn’t make a total fool of myself. So now ontop of the fact that the bolero doesn’t stay on, it’s now all cockeyed in the back. Wonderful, just wonderful.
We had to do something about the bolero so the salon is going to add snaps to it and my dress. We placed them in such a way to not only hold the bolero on but also straighten the back and still allow me full motion. I still plan to wear the cardigan for the reception but I think the bolero will be fine.
I’m still incredibly angry and torn. I feel like letting the designer get away with this without atleast telling her how unhappy I am isn’t at all fair to me but she’s a close friend of a close friend who I will undoubtebly encounter in the future. Do I spare myself the awkwardness or get this off my chest?
Post # 7
Aaaaah! So sorry you are having to deal with this.
I would definitely speak with the designer. This is not personal it is professional. She needs to know that her work did not measure up and she needs to be called out on the ink stain.
Just treat it in a professional manner. Call her on the phone if you think that will help you to stay in control. Tell her that you regret having to bring these issues to her attention, but you know that as a professional she would want this feedback and would want to address your concerns.
Tell her what your dressmaker has planned in order to fix her work and ask how she plans to make this right for you.
ETA you don’t need this information now as you have another solution, but the two sided tape I was tallking about is especially made for ensuring that clothing stays in place- low cut necklines etc.