Post # 1
Mostly just a lurker here who has posted once a while back!!
I’m just curious on what other ladies’ ring experiences have been like. Has anyone custom designed their own ring?
When me and the bf started discussing marriage and such, I started looking at rings only to find out I don’t like diamonds. I think they’re beautiful but everytime I saw one on my hand, I felt like it wasn’t me! Finally I just concluded that I’d like a different stone and after doing some research, settled on a sapphire! This past weekend my boyfriend surprised me with an appointment at the jewlers we found a while back and together picked out an amazing beautiful 2.3 champagne cushion cut sapphire and also worked out a design together (rose gold cable band! EEEEKK!) Both of our inputs when into the whole process and I loved every single minute of it and so did my man. I didn’t realize how much say we would really have in the design and now I cannot wait till I get to see it!!
This process has been absolutely incredible and it’s just beginning! Yet I’ve had some people give me some negative reactions about how I shouldn’t be involved and how it won’t be a surprise – it still will be. I wouldn’t trade this awesome experience for anything and am sooo happy we did it this way – but I also wouldn’t push others to do it either. We did what we wanted and what we felt was right so why do people have to be so negative Nancy?!
anyone else custom design their ring? How was your experience?
Post # 2
Hi – I helped my boyfriend custom design my ring because he insisted and said he wanted it to be something I love. I did mention this to a coworker and she thought it was weird that I was so involved. At the end of the day though, how you mentioned, we both really enjoyed the whole process of designing the ring and choosing every part of it together. I had more input on the setting (he helped just a little) and he had more input on the diamond. Now that the ring is done, i’m just waiting for him to propose! 🙂
Post # 3
While my boyfriend and I did not custom design a ring, I did have a very large say in the ring selection. I’d pinned a bunch of rings I liked, but there was one that just took my breath away the first time I saw it. He asked to see what I liked, and he was drawn to the exact same one, told me I should find that one in store to try on. When we saw it together, we agreed–it’s the one. I’ve experienced the same thing you have with Negative Nancys–the snide comments of “Well I wouldn’t marry a man who couldn’t pick out a ring I like on his own, but I guess if that’s what you want…” or “I would hate to take all the surprise out of it. I’m sure your boyfriend hates that doesn’t get to do this one thing for you on his own…” I try to just let these comments roll off my back. Different strokes for different folks, and like you, we did the whole thing in a way that works for us. That’s all that matters.
…and at least I’m secure knowing I’m getting a ring I absolutely adore, with no risk of disliking the ring and being scared of hurting his feelings by telling him!
Post # 4
After being on the bee awhile and reading many posts such as ‘my bf bought me a ring i don’t like’ or something similar….i would have to agree with the other posters, above. Do whatever works for you, and if what works is a sapphire custom ring that you both designed , so be it! Enjoy the process (and it soudns like you really did!) and ignore the haters.
It’s not 1940 anymore. FWIW…. i don’t like surprises and like to have input into the color of paint on the walls in my home, my bedroom quilt, the cat’s new collar, etc :)….. so of course I want input into my ring.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies for the input!! You’re so right! ☺️