(Closed) Custom Dream Ring….Maybe Not

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
Member
4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you committed to the jeweler already?  I think you need to get a budget from your Fiance, or maybe even tell the jeweler you need to wait a bit to save up some money yourself.  Could you get married with another band, and then add this one later on?

p.s. I can’t see the pic and I really want to!

ETA:  I see the pic!  Beautiful!

Post # 5
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4801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@mollyib:  That sounds like a really good solution, to buy one now and another one later, maybe for an anniversary or something.

I can see how it would bum you out though, since he told you to go ahead, and you didn’t know you weren’t on the same page budget-wise. 

Post # 6
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d say go with it, if your financial situation will be ok that is, especially if your Fiance won’t give you a budget (he really needs to). $1500 is super reasonable in the world of engagement rings…. and you’re gonna have it the rest of your life, might as well like it! 🙂

Post # 7
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11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

It’s hard going in without a budget, a girl can certainly get carried away. However, $1500 is a steal for a custom ring that you love (my man probably wishes he got off that lucky!).

I think you should have a very open conversation of how much he wants to spend now and decide if you can wait a bit to save up. It is going to be on your finger forever so loving it is certainly helpful.

I wasn’t willing to settle and it took a long time but eventually I ended up with a custom design set of my dreams. It wasn’t cheap and well worth the wait.

Post # 8
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100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You should definitely talk this out with your Fiance. Make it plain that if he won’t give you a budget to work within, then he should not make you feel bad about the price. It seems like he’s putting you in a difficult position. Plus, that’s a steal for an engagement ring! Maybe he just needs to be educated a little on how much engagement rings tend to cost. Mine cost a little bit more than that, and it’s not nearly as bling-y!

Post # 11
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2081 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

Has he said what his ideal budget is?

Post # 12
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Are there diamonds all around the ring? You can always get 1/2 or 3/4 eternity bands which will save a tonne. Plus, no one will see that side anyway. I’ve also heard from friends that their full eternity bands get caught on things and rub -so they’re kinda annoying anyway.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

To some $1500 would be reasonable but every couple’s budget is different. I can see where you would be bummed out because you didn’t get a specific budget and now your Fiance feels it’s too expensive. Is the $1500 for BOTH wraps or just one? I’m assuming the $1500 doesn’t include the engagement ring. $1500 was right around what my wedding band cost (4 diamonds that were .09 each and pave diamonds 3/4 of the way around the band…to give you a comparative). I agree with the other Bee who brought up that you don’t need pave all the way around your band. 3/4 will be plenty (I still knock some of the side ones sometimes) and you could even do 1/2 around the band to save $$. Maybe get the one band for the wedding and the other band for your one year anniversary?

Post # 15
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Beautiful ring(s)! I don’t know how you two work your finances but can’t you just pay for the wrap yourself? I paid for our wedding bands because I felt it was only fair. Maybe you pool all of your money together already, I don’t know, but that’s what I would do. GL!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

a 3rd option might be to offer to pay towards it. if your partner says no….then he cannot grumble any more

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