(Closed) Custom wedding dress, mother isn’t a fan

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This sounds like my dress shopping experience – I’m having a destination wedding, so I was willing to go for something simple and light. My mother wanted something bigger with more bling.  She had an idea of what a “BRIDE” looks like, and simple or short was not it.  As for my fiance, he didn’t have strong opinions on any of the dress trials I showed him, and he would’ve been happy with whatever I chose. 

In the end, I kept looking until I found something my mom and I were both happy with.  I could’ve picked something that I liked and she didn’t, but it just wouldn’t have felt right if my mother didn’t like it.  I say keep looking for now, if your mother’s opinion is important.  You can always go back to this dress later, you have so much time still.

Post # 4
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I showed my Mom 2 options and she liked the 1st option better but it didn’t fit.(Dresses purchased from yourdreamdress.com)  Once I got my 2nd choice, I showed my Mom and she knew this was the dress for me.  And when I got it and tried it on, my gf cried so I knew.

My Mom and I have similar taste but she knows that I will wear what I love.   She’s just happy that her first child is finally getting married.

My advice: If you love it, go for it.   You want to remember your dress as being the dress that you love.

By The Way….  I was going to wear a ready to wear wedding dress.  My gf threatened me since I have shoes that would cost more than the dress.  By combing preownedweddingdresses.com I was able to find my Badgley Mischka.  I had secretly dreamed of wearing Badgley and its gonna happen.  I didn’t get my destination wedding but we’re getting married overlooking the ocean.  Can’t wait.

Good Luck:) 

Post # 5
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would definitely make a trip with her to try on a dress that is similar in style and fabric to the one you like.  My mom was surprised that the actually liked a dress on me, even though she hated it on the mannequin and hanger.  

Also, its a good thing to check to see if this style really makes you feel like a bride.  I tried a couple on that sound very similar to the ones you were describing, and although I really liked them, I didn’t like them for my wedding dress.  Since you won’t be able to return this dress, I would try to be as sure as possible about it before you order it!

Post # 6
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If your mom really doesn’t like the dress, that’s OK. She doesn’t have to wear it.

I LOVE that you have a cool, custom-made dress. No one else will look like you on your wedding day, and that’s awesome. If your mom’s opinion is important to you, and you trust her judgment on what would make you look best, then maybe find out what small changes would make it look more like a proper wedding dress. If she’s really pushing you to change your whole look, and you don’t feel like you need her approval, then you’ll have to firmly (but lovingly) tell her how great this dress makes you feel and hope she’ll drop it.

Post # 7
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@squeak35: I got my Anne Barge from there too.  Love that website!

 @Ambellina13: I think this is good advice.

Post # 9
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23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@FutureMrsDB: So nice of you to give your mother the in store experience.  Good luck with the dress hunt, and who knows, maybe at the end of it all, you can still go with a custom dress that both you and Mom will love!  🙂

Post # 10
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@FutureMrsDB: I’m glad to hear that you will take a breather and evaluate other options.  There are so many girls here with dress regret and multiple dresses – do NOT pull the trigger until you’re 100% sure.  Never make a decision on the spot, there is always time to take a few days to think it over. Always.

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