Post # 1
Darling Husband and I have been married almost 3 years and are expecting our first child together. This will be his first child, I have a 7 year old from a previous relationship.
Darling Husband is very close with my son and it’s important to both of us that he feel included in this process. We have concerns that his dad may try to down play having a sibling, or even try to discourage his excitement (see my previous post for details on that). We want to get him a gift to announce the pregnancy to make it special for him but I’m drawing a blank.
I thought of getting him a big brother T-Shirt and maybe a book, but I’m not sure. Did any of you bees tell your older children about the new addition in a cute way?
Post # 2
I was 8 went my youngest brother was born, and my other brother was 6. My parents bought us the “Puppy Surprise” plush dogs, that have a mystery number of mystery puppies inside them. She didn’t let us open them until he was born. (Which happened to be on my birthday lol) Anyway, we were super excited about it at the time. Not sure if your son is into that kind of thing, but I actually saw those dogs are still for sale at Target recently. Some of them are pink and non-realistic girly colors, but some of them are normal dog colors. There are probably lots of other toys that have to do with babies being born too.
Post # 3
pearlrose : I’ve never heard of those! I’ll habe to check them out. Thank you, bee!
Post # 4
wallybee : I think a big brother tshirt and a book that relates to being a new big sibling would be a good idea! Since he is so young I would probably take the route of making the big brother role seem like an exciting new responsibility. I was four when my brother was born and I vividly remember my mom and dad including me in every aspect of the new baby. I helped with feeding time (bottle baby), I helped with baths and putting him down for bed, I was even the first one to wake up if he got fussy in the night because we shared a room and would sometimes be able to settle him down before my mom even woke up.
I think so long as you make sure he is included and consistently remind him that the baby is “his” as much as yours it will combat anything negative that your ex might spew out.
Post # 5
My husband was 6 when his little brother was born and their parents gave him a huge box of Lego that was apparently ‘from’ his new brother.
Post # 6
tillymac : same for me, I was 6 when my brother was born and I got a barbie doll house ‘from’ him. It was my most prized possession!
wallybee : love the idea of a t shirt and book too, something to get him excited to be a big brother
Post # 7
smalltownbigworld : That’s a good idea! He has a very nurturing personality and is always eager to help so I think being really involved like that will be nice for him. We really want to put the emphasis on him being a big brother so he doesn’t feel like everything is changing and he gets left behind.
Post # 8
tillymac : That’s such a cute idea!
My son is the ultimate realist though. At his school they had a book character for the kids to take pictures with and he announced loudly that it wasn’t actually Clifford, just a guy in a suit. He also tried to trick me into saying the Easter bunny isn’t real. He’d probably look at me like I was crazy if I tried to say a toy was from the baby.
Post # 9
My parents got my brother and I a book called The Bears’ New Baby when they told us about my sister. My brother was 6 and I was 4. My brother was a lot more involved with “helping” than I was. I distinctly remember being disappointed that my sister couldn’t play with me, even though the book explains what newborns are like.
I definitley agree with the idea of making it clear that this is “his” baby, too, since it’s his sibling. Giving him a feeling of responsibility and ‘ownership’ might help him be more excited. You could also try showing him episodes of TV shows like Arthur or the Berenstein bears where they add a new baby to the family.