(Closed) Cute Hair is not Kinky Hair – vent

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Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@PeeIBee:  Your hair looked amazing!  I love it!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@JuneBride02:  She just pinned the hair around my hair and voila! It wasn’t weave hair, it was braiding hair (that’s what they told me at the beauty supply place, ha!). Whatever it was, I wanted it to look as natural as possible. Thanks. 

Whatever style you choose should be one that you are comfortable with. They’ll all be focusing on your overall beauty that day anyway. You’ll look great!

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

As a white woman with stick straight fine hair, I would LOVE to be able to rock a natural AA ‘do if I had the chance. That hair has volume….pizzaz….personality! You’ll look absolutely gorgeous no matter how you wear your hair, please don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise. Nobody should be ashamed of their natural, god-given look!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am mixed black/white.  I love my curly hair!  I wore it natural for my wedding day with just a little braid in the front and a flower.  I got tons of compliments!

 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

I’m natural. And being in Brooklyn, I wear my hair natural all the time. Unfortunately, I was getting married in Houston and even though I knew that they had folks who could do natural hair, I honestly couldn’t trust them. I have straight up kinky coarse W. African hair which is where I’m from. Most folks have some kind of softness to their hair, not mine. I didn’t want any fuss. So, for the first time in about 8 years of being natural, I *gasp* wore a weave and used a flat iron on my hair. I NEVER EVER use heat. It turned out okay I must say. See some of my pics here and here. I do agree with you, I did some research on how to wear my hair on the big day but I couldn’t trust anyone to do it in Houston. By The Way, my mum asked once, I told her I would do what I would do and that was it. I’m in my 30’s. I would hope she would trust my hair fashion sense 🙂

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

It just depends on the style…with anything else, sometimes I like it sometimes I don’t. Regardless she needs to back off and keep her passive aggressive comments to herself and just support you on your big day.

I too am frieking out about how to wear my hair for our wedding. We are having a destination wedding in Hawaii and it’s going to be hard without my stylist there.

Post # 26
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Helper bee

There are lots of pretty natural styles.  They will just have to get over it.  I’ve been natural for 16, 17 years now so my family gave up on me a long time ago, lol.  And my hair is of the extremely tightly coiled variety, too.  I straighten on the rare occasion and am trying to decide if I want it straight, something on a wet set twist out, or something on blow dried hair.  My particular difficulty is that my hair is fairly long, and most styles I see are on shorter hair.  I want a natural updo as I don’t know what will happen with humidity during the day on the day of the wedding.

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ok. There are plenty of gorgeous natural hairstyles that you can  choose on your wedding day. You could do some kind of cornrow hairstyle or even wear it out. 

Next, I am also natural and this has been the topic of discussion by a few people also. I just shut everyone down and tell them that I am walking down the aisle with a picked out afro (Jill Scott style). That shuts them up right away.  I guess it is different for me because my mom is natural and my family has embraced me being natural. On that day you will look gorgeous no matter how your hair looks.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wore my hair natural for a good decade.  I decided to go “straight” for my wedding because it was time for achange.  But that’s how I’ve always been.  Now its past my shoulders but I could wake up tomorrow and go natural.  Its common in our family.  I grew up w/ my Mom,who would switch btwn natural and straight.  Now all of us girls do the same.  I love being about to change my hairstyle based on how I feel.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water

I have a love/hate relationship with my natural hair.  I have to admit that.  I LOVE the texture and the way it feels.  I HATE the work involved with it.  It’s a lot of work at least it is for me.  I guess that’s because I am always trying to put it into styles similar to how I wore my hair while relaxed.   I honestly find that just letting my hair go is a no-no.  My hair, even while relaxed, did it’s own thing.  So if relaxing was a way of taming my hair and it was going crazy you can imagine what my natural hair is trying to do.  LOL! But at the end of the day I love my hair more than I hate it.

For my wedding day I am undecided about how to wear it but I am thinking of a side chignon similar to what was posted earlier here.  There is the possibility that I may blow dry and curl but as my wedding isn’t until next August I have time to decide what I want to do.  My hair is currently past my shoulders (stretched) on its was to BSL.  Next year this time I hope to be on my way to APL.

 

@JuneBride02 – You have the right mindset.  It’s your head.  What you do with it is your business not your Future Mother-In-Law.  She will get over it and as someone said the best thing to do is to show them your hair fantastically beautiful your hair can be without the creamy crack.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am all naturale. LOL.  LOVE my hair but when i went natural 8/9 years ago, my family didn’t understand.  My grandmother thinks your hair is your beauty and prefers relaxed hair.  However I have changed their mind some.  

Now when my mom saw my hair again last year, she kept saying, oh you have to do something with it.  Like what. LOL.  I styled it differently and she was like, oh wow.  Yeah, with natural hair I can do so much.  People don’t say peep about my hair anymore because I shut them up years ago… even my fmil wanted to have a say and I told her, no one has a right to talk about what I should do with my hair, it’s MY hair (she is hispanic).  

I have a LOT of hair.  And I occasionally get it blowed out and flat ironed which I also love. I like for people to see all the different aspects of my natural hair.

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