Post # 1
I recently moved out of state and away from my family. I am trying to think of a cute idea to ask my niece and nephew to be the flower girl and ring bearer in our wedding? Maybe some sort of cute box or card mailed to them? Anyone have any ideas?
I am also thinking of asking my siser to be the Maid/Matron of Honor this way too but still haven’t committed to that?
Post # 3
@Lily_of_the_valley: How old are they? If they are young enough to take these roles, they are likely young enough that they will have no earthly idea what it means to be asked to be a flower girl. Save yourself some effort, seriously. If you are out of state, maybe Skype with them and ask them that way… but be prepared that you and their parents will have to explain what a ring bearer is and the kids likely won’t react much at all.
Post # 4
@VanillaCoke: My neice is 4 and my nephew is 1. I know my nephew will have no idea what’s going on but I think my neice would appreciate something cute being done. Something small but I don’t know what? Also her mom (my sister) would love it too, she is crazy and keeps everything in a scrap book for them
Post # 5
@Lily_of_the_valley: You know your family best! I’m just basing this on asking my own Flower Girl and Ring Bearer (3 and 4 years old, respectively) – I was a little bummed that they just looked at me quizzically. Their parents were very touched and excited, but the kids had no clue. I’m sure in the next year they will come to understand what it’s about and get into it, but if I had done something elaborate, I would have been disappointed.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
@Lily_of_the_valley: I asked my soon to be neice by giving her a flower girl barbie doll, I wrapped it really nicely and put a single flower on top as the “bow” She is 3.5 years old and was so excited, granted she has no idea what a flower girl is but she kept running around with the flower screaming I’m giong to be a flower girl, she was so excited!! I also got her a book about the “roles” of the flower girl so her mom could read it to her. I don’t see her very often, but everytime I do I make sure to bring a flower for her and tell her it’s for my flower girl 🙂
Post # 7
I asked my 8 year old flower girl with a scavenger hunt that led her all over the house, and eventually back to me, where I had a card and an Alex and Ani bracelet with a flower charm. She loved it!
We’re doing the same for our nephew- scaveneger hunt with some sort of gift at the end!
Post # 8
@Lily_of_the_valley: My nieces are 9, and when I asked them I bought them flower shaped rings and put them in a box that said will you be my flower girl? I did similiar for BM’s (ring pops and wrote now its my turn to pop the ?, will you be my BM?) They were so excited when they saw my sisters that I decided to do the same thing for them. When my Fiance asked his nephews to be in the wedding he said said, what do you think about being in the wedding with us?” The boys were like ok and went back to their videogames lol