- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Can Fiance pick up some other PT work?
Can Fiance pick up some other PT work?
Sending massive positive vibes to you!!! Your wedding will turn out splendidly!!! An open air wedding, at the beach(!), barbecue so people may actually eat with their hands and laugh aloud..and a married couple 🙂
Not around here, unfortunately. We live in a rural area and employment opportunities are scarce. He already has to drive an 80-mile round trip just to get to his current job. I would have taken a second job, but the nature of my career has me working long, unpredictable hours.
I’ve been to quite a few weddings where I found out afterwards, were super bare done. And I had no idea! If it’s done properly, and your guests have fun, people are happy.
To save on mine, Fiance and I have cut out:
I’m sure you’ll rock it!!!
I think it will be beautiful and so meaningful. As far as your dress, it might be worthwhile checking department stores, etc too. You might be able to find a great white prom dress on sale at the end of June : )
Good luck, I know it will be beautiful!
For my dress I found a non-tradtional off white dress from Macy’s on Clearance for 34 bucks. It’s so gorgeous I die each time I see it. It’s a little bit tea-length I guess with lace around the top. It’s plus size.
Finding a non-traditional dress may be an option too? Good luck!
@automaticflowers: Can you move to a Court House wedding with just a party at the beach after? Potluck, boombox, and friends with their own cameras capturing the moment? I haven’t lost hope 😉
I’m so sorry you’re going through all this stress. You deserve a beautiful wedding. I hope you get there!
Thank you, bees! I’ll check out those store recommendations and see if I can come up with something to wear. I was going to buy a dress this week from Recycled Bride, but with everything so up in the air at this point I’m reluctant to plunk down the dough.
the_future_mrs: We have also cut all those things except the possibility of dancing. 🙂 The portable PA system I planned to buy is also for the ceremony… I’m afraid our guests would have a hard time hearing us over the ocean and any other random noise. I found one for about $70 and planned to resell it after the wedding, but maybe the officiant can be a bit more lenient on our wedding package and bring along a microphone, if she wasn’t going to. Our package is also bare bones… no decor, no music, no chairs. We have to provide that if we want it. She did offer to bring handfasting cords, but I already bought ribbon in our wedding colors to make them myself.
icetea: Thank you! And that does sound like a fun, low-key plan… it would work if we stuck close to home, though the riverside would have to serve as substitute for a beach. 🙂 The ceremony officiant and the beach and reception sites are cheap, cheap, cheap – $160 altogether, not including the $60+ marriage license. The food is covered by my future in-laws, thank goodness… just some BBQ we were going to cook up ourselves. A potluck probably wouldn’t work at our original location because it’s essentially a destination wedding.
An update! After talking things through with Fiance, he shared that he wants to keep the wedding where we originally planned to have it. He said, “We’re doing this! I don’t care if you don’t wanna.” Haha. 🙂 So I regrouped and talked to my mom, who offered to give us $1,000. I’m stubborn and refused to accept it unless she let me pay her back, but that should more than cover everything. We agreed to go ultra-minimalist on decorations and I already have a fair amount of stuff we could make use of… like seashells, river rocks, sand, glass vases (from random bouquets Fiance has given me), battery-powered tealights, strands of lights, some white tulle.
I found a couple of condos available for less than what we originally planned on paying, and we decided to shorten our trip to two nights instead of three or four. And… drumroll… I FOUND A DRESS! Finally! And it was only $170! I am thrilled because I really didn’t want to go the empire waist route, which up until yesterday was the only type of gown I could find for less than $200. This dress was sold out of my size before, so I jumped on it immediately. 🙂 I was going to just buy a preworn dress from somewhere, either RecycledBride or Craiglist (thanks also to those who PMed me with links), but figured I would have a little less stress if it came from David’s. I know their sizing and just felt more comfortable going that route, with less than three months to go.
We still probably won’t be able to swing the photographer I wanted, so I need to let her know. Instead I might go with one of the photographers our officiant works with, if they’re still available that Friday. They charge about $225 to shoot the ceremony and get a few shots afterward on the beach. Definitely more doable than $400, and I think we can live without pro shots of us getting ready or sitting around shooting the breeze with our guests at the reception.
I write too much! Occupational hazard. 🙂 Anyway, you all helped me so much to let go of the stress and worrying about what everyone else will think/expect, so again, THANK YOU. Our wedding will happen, and I feel much more sane organizing the final details. <3
Hi Automaticflowers: so how was your wedding? and by the way, happy almost 2nd anniversary~
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