Post # 1
Background: I adore cupcakes, so for us it made sense to go with them over cake for the wedding.
Our stand has three or four tiers, and on the top tier we will have a small cake, because a single cupcake looks silly on the tier by itself and our topper won’t fit on the top of s cupcake.
We would like to keep the top tier cake in tact and cut a cupcake. I hadn’t given this much thought, because how hard could it be to cut a cupcake in half?
But as we get closer to the wedding I am realizing I really don’t know what to do once we cut it. How do you feed one another a piece of cupcake? With your hands? With a fork? I’m probably over thinking this, but with that many eyes on us I’d like to avoid feeling unsure of what to do! Am i the only one who is worried it will feel awkward?!
Post # 2
We had a jumbo cupcake, and cut a slice out onto a plate. Then we fed each other a bite from the slice. It wasn’t too awkward! Just make sure you have a plate and forks set up next to it so you don’t have to think about anything.
Post # 3
It’s not too hard to cut a cupcake. Just peel the wrapper back all the way, cut it in half, and feed each other a half each with your hands (skip the fork). Is there a reason you don’t want to cut the cake? Cutting a cupcake definitely won’t have the same “look” in photos as cutting a cake.
Post # 4
We’re doing something similar, but cutting the top tier. I think you could easily cut a cupcake in half, if this is what you’d prefer! Then just hold your half and feed a bite to each other?
Post # 5
Cupcakes are my absolute favorite, so it was a given that I’d have them instead of a traditional cake. A family friend is making them, and I had asked her about cutting a cupcake. While we could totally do that, she said she could make a special jumbo cupcake that would look more like a mini cake- no wrapper so it’s easier to cut, frosting all around it instead of just on top. She’ll decorate it on a special plate that it will stay on until we cut it. It wil also be big enough for a cake topper!
Post # 6
What is the reason for not cutting the layer of cake?
Post # 7
We would rather keep the cake layer in tact for the cake topper, and it just seemed to make sense to cut a cupcake since that’s what everyone else is eating (then we can also just save the entire top layer for an anniversary, and we won’t be missing a piece of it)- just a preference! 🙂
Regardless of whether we cut a cupcake or cake, though, I was still not sure what we do for the “feeding each other” part..
Post # 8
Thanks everyone, this is helpful! I wasn’t sure if it would be really messy to feed each other half a cupcake by hand, but also not sure if feeding each other a piece of cupcake with a fork would look silly?! (Because I don’t typically eat cupcakes with a fork…haha)
Post # 9
I think you should skip the whole cake cutting and feeding each other cake all together if you want to save the one tier cake than just save it. If I were a guest at your wedding I would find you feeding eachother a half of a cup cake a little bit awkward. Just skip it and have your venue coordinator serve everyone cupcake after dinner.
Post # 10
You could buy a couple of cupcakes and practice!
Post # 11
Maybe the venue could present you with one cupcake already unwrapped and sitting on a plate? Then you could cut it in half and feed each other (with either hands or fork.)
Post # 12
Cut the cupcake, then treat it like a piece of cake. Use a fork.
Post # 13
Honestly, the saving the cake for the anniversary tradition is from times past when they served fruit cake for wedding cake. It was preserved in brandy or rum and was still edible a year later.
That is not the case with today’s bakery style cakes. Almost nothing that you put in your freezer is going to be tasty a year from now. Instead of saving it, just have the bakery make you a fresh small cake for your first anniversary.
You can easily cut a shallow slice into the cake without disturbing the cake topper.
Post # 14
This is all just ceremonial, so just pick out which part of the ceremony you like and do that part.
If you want to buy your fancy cake cutting set – do it and use it. If not, don’t even cut one, just unwrap a cupcake for each other and hold it for your DH while he takes a bite and vice versa. (No one finishes the slice of cake they cut from the cake. The staff just takes it away along with the cake when they take it to the back to cut it. So just have your waiters take away your half-eaten cupcakes. You don’t have to finish them. They can handle this.) If the smooshing food in your spouse’s face is the part you like, just grab a cupcake and go to town! If you like the pictures where the couple is using forks to feed each other – use forks! Forks work whether you cut the cupcake or not.
So it’s all just up to you – whatever moments you want captured – do that. There are no rules!
Post # 15
We had cupcakes, we just fed each other a bite of one. No forks or knives were used.
Also, regarding julies1949
‘s comment, I’ve eaten cake that had been frozen for a year. It did not adversely affect the taste at all. Aside from being slightly more dry, it tasted just fine. Not all bakeries have cakes that don’t hold up well in the freezer.