(Closed) Cutting family off the list

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Invite the people you WANT there. You are not obligated to invite anyone who makes you uncomfortable.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I second what @vorpalette said: Only invite people you want there. If you don’t really communicate with branches of your family, then I don’t see why you have to invite them.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@k_sid188: I don’t think it sounds cold at all! Only invite who you really want there. The only reason I would invite people I don’t *really* want is if it would be more awkward if they weren’t invited than if they came. But with a lot of FI’s family it would be more awkward if they were there, haha…. sounds like that might be the case with your grandmother.

Post # 6
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3146 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have 1 uncle, 3 aunts and 8 cousins all of whom are married and have children (some have grandchildren. I speak to 1 aunt and 1 cousin. They are the only ones I invited to the wedding. the one cousin I did invite has 2 brothers – didn’t invite them. The ones I didn’t invite I haven’t seen or spoken to in years and years. 

Invite the people you want there and will be happy to see

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree to invite those who you want there.  I know sometimes it’s easier to say it then to do it, but you should be surrounded by the people who mean the most to you on that day!

Post # 8
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Newbee

First, cutt of anyone that you think will be an issue. If grandma is going to be an issue, don’t bother. It’s not worth worrying about issues that may happen. 

If you haven’t talked to someone in over a year, there is no obligation, even if they are family. Personally I feel that it’s awkward to be invited and spend money on someone or have money spent on me when there is no relationship in place. 

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