Post # 1
Long story short, Fiance and I had to cancel our wedding due to his military career getting in the way of our date. We replanned a smaller special day, and while Im still very satisfied with what he and I are doing, we simply do not have the means to afford the guest list we had previously planned on at this new venue. (and with my wedding 4 months away Im lucky I got a venue at all…haha….) Is there any polite way to cut the guest list? Keep in mind, Ive already had the addresses for all the invitations we were going to send out, but I have to cut 27 people. Changing the venue really is not an option at this point as time is really running out and this was the most affordable place we could get on such short notice. The guilt consumes me
Post # 2
I’ve been asked for my address when I know brides were planning a wedding, and assumed it was because they were planning on inviting me, but for whatever reason, decided not to and it didn’t bother me that much. Especially because 2 of them were co-workers that I wasn’t expecting to be invited to their weddings anyway. They never said anything, I never asked.
But if those people did ask, I would just tell them exactly what you told us. You had to move your date, therefore moving your venue, which had a smaller limit and/or your budget changed.
Post # 3
You can still send out wedding announcements. That would account for asking for their addresses. Hopefully your new guestlist is significantly smaller, then you can comfortably word the announcement that “___ and ___ were married in an intimate ceremony on _____”.
Post # 4
Polite ladies keep a visiting book (or address book or contacts app or spreadsheet) in which they note their friends’ preferred form of address (Miss/Ms/Mrs/Lady/Doctor/whatever) names, addresses, birthdates, anniversary dates and then record whether they’ve remembered to send that friend a Christmas or Birthday card, when they last had them over for dinner, what they are allergic to, and so on. One keeps such a book regardless of whether one is getting married. Let us simply assume that you were asking for addresses for that book; and send them a Christmas card this year for sure. No promise of an invitation was implied, nor should one have been inferred.
Post # 5
When you collected thier addresses, did you say you needed it for invites? If yes, then I would send a letter explaining the military career forcing you both to change your plans. If no, then just send them a wedding announcement or birthday card.