- 1 year ago
I need some bee help here!
My FH has two sisters, both older. I love one a bunch, but really starting to dislike the other.. I’ll call her Jane.
Jane is incredibly bossy, stubborn, and judgemental. It didn’t used to bother me in the beginning, but it’s really starting to wear me down.
I never actually felt comfortable around Jane, never felt like I could be myself. It’s that constant “walking on eggshells” feeling when I am with her. I never get this feeling with his other sister.
The first time I started actively disliking her was a few years back when she yelled at me in public for “hogging” time with our niece. She went on to passive aggressively ignore me the rest of the evening.
Since then, it’s just a general feeling of discomfort. If my FH and I don’t get back to her immediately we are “shirking our duties as family members”. No matter what we (and FH specifically) do, we are just not doing enough for her. Not spending enough time, not making enough plans, not seeing her son enough, not calling enough. We make all the effort we can, but we are BUSY. We have lives, just like she does.
So, I’m really on my final straw here now. I have reached out to her FIVE times over the last few weeks and she reads the messages but just completely ignores them. I have expressed my feelings to FH and said that I feel she doesn’t like me, but he’s quick to reassure me that it isn’t true.
We don’t fight or argue, she just makes me uncomfortable and everything is her way or the highway.
I am at the point where I just want to cut her off completely. FH has agreed that I should not be expected to make one more stitch of effort. I’ve also told him I’m done and he wasn’t opposed.
Is it okay for me to just cut her off and not talk to her anymore? I’m so sick of her.