Post # 1
I feel like I rely on my mom too much for things I should be sharing with my fiance. I see her every work day for lunch to save money/eat better and I know I need to see less of her because I share too much about my life and relationship, or I get upset when I don’t think she seems happy enough for me. She loves my fiance, always has, but I know she doesn’t like that I’ll be marrying him while he’s unemployed but I’ve decided that “for better or worse” includes this rough time of unemployment.
She’s sensitive and takes things I say wrong and I get that way too, but sometimes I think seeing my mom so often really isn’t the best thing for me right now.
I’m 25 and although I am fianancially independent from her (and have been since I was 18) I feel like I’m more emotionally invested in her opinions more than I should be.
Does any of this make sense? Has anyone felt like this before?
Post # 3
I could have written this post myself, only I’m the one who’s unemployed, and I’m younger than you.
I love that my mom and I are so close, but I too wish that I wasn’t so emotionally invested in her opinions…
I don’t have any advice for you, but I can totally relate.
Post # 4
maybe you should limit your lunches with her to once or twice a week (you can definitely find cheap things to bring to work for lunch). make an effort to talk to your fiance about what you would normally share with your mom everyday, and keep reminding yourself that her opinion is not the end-all be-all.
Post # 5
I used to be in the same boat, I miss it 🙁 There’s no law that says you can’t still be close to your mom just because you’re engaged/married. If it doesn’t bother your SO, then I wouldn’t worry about it. On another note, make sure you share all the sweet and positive stuff he does as well 🙂
Post # 6
@kitzy: I think I will limit the lunches, just so there’s more of everything else to talk about. It’s so hard to not take everything she says to heart and want to believe it. I just talked with my fiance about how I was feeling and it was a very uplifting convo! 🙂
@Belle2Be: I want to remain close, I just feel like our personalities clash with all the time we spend together, and we end up talking about my relationship so much…I think we need some distance. I’ll try lunch twice a week and se if that helps.