- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
My FI and I have a tentative guest list. A handful of people are from out of town, however, he genuinly thinks many will come. He is a miracle child, no one thought he’d live (was born at 24 weeks gestation), so to now see him get married, and for everyonme to have a chance to meet our daughter (currently 9.5 months), is going to be quite the pull for them all to come visit. Which is great, I’m happy they want to come.
Currently, we are at 120 guests, 8 children, 12 of which are not kids, but are under 21. I have yet to add my coworkers. I’ve only been here 4 months, but if I’m still here next year, I want to invite them. That is another 6 + 4 spouses. So 130. The hall I want to use (and for budget reasons), we need to keep our guest list to 110. So we need to cut 10-15 people (I’m sure a few won’t show). The guest list is currently 70% his, so I think he should be the one to cut some people out, so we each have an equal number of invites. If not, then he and his family need to kick in more money (mostly his family, because he and I are already sharing expenses as is).
However, his parets don’t support the marriage (I’m an evil woman because I’m fat (I had a baby by c-section 10 months ago!) and because I got pregnant before we were engaged/married. So they aren’t going to really help.
I’m stuck. I feel like he just wants a big wedding because all his friends have big weddings. I want to go to the Bahamas and have a small, 10-15 person wedding. =
Any advise on trimming the guest list?