(Closed) D you regret getting a large stone ring?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
2343 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

This is 2.02 carats and 8.2 mm diameter on a 3.5 finger. It doesn’t look at all door-knob to me but then I have a very simple, quite low setting. Even this size can look ungainly in a very high chunky setting  

I would happily go to 3 carats but it would look big, however I’m 45, don’t care, and with my age and economic background people wouldn’t fall off their chairs or be bitchy. 

I think 2 carats is a safe bet, I don’t knock or catch it and it is a nice proportion.

Post # 17
10577 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Here’s a 1.65 carat equivalent amora gem ultra set in a diamond halo on a size 3.5 finger. As you can see, it looks pretty big. So you may want to consider going a little smaller, especially with an oval since they have up larger. I’d go with a7x5- 8×6 with a halo or a 9×7 at the largest without a halo. 

Post # 18
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

princessforever77:  nope!! I have a 3 ct diamond and I’m beyond in love with It!! My ring finger is a 4.5-5  No regrets here! 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by  b143.
Post # 19
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

“I guess if i’m honest i would like to pass it off as a diamond even though i love moissanite for what it is and am choosing it over a diamond for ethical reasons.”

if you want to pass it off definitely do not get 3 carats. The oval moissy already looks very different than a diamond and the bigger you go the more obvious that is. And it’s just not a believable size on most people, it will get a whole lot of inquiries which will make you sweat if your not honest about the stone. 

  the ethics thing is a reach for someone who wants to pretend they have a diamond… people who wear fake fur for ethical reasons would never want people to think it’s real…. Nothing wrong with just not wanting to pay the price tag of a big diamond but call a spade a spade. Loads of ethical, Canadian, and lab diamonds available at Brilliant Earth. 

Post # 20
17 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

My center stone is a little over 3 carat and I love it (so far) . I have only had it 2 weeks so I may have not worn it long enogh to have been troubled or bothered by it. And to give reference, I wear a size 6! Hope this helps and best of luck with your exiciting choices!

Post # 22
697 posts
Busy bee

IMO I would say go with what you want. My SO and I are currently designing a ring with a 2.74 elongated cushion cut stone and due to the cut and shap it’s going to look huge on my finger! (My finger is just a tad bigger than yours at 4.5) however, unlike other bees, my job only consists of editing photos so the use of my hands is pretty limited unless I’m called to shoot photos, which in that case I would have a stand in el-cheapo ring because I’d be afraid of losing my diamond.

Just so you can get an idea of my ring, the photo below isn’t mine but it’s similar. According to Pricescope, this woman has a 5.5 finger and her rock is just a little above 2 carats (I think she said like 2.02 or something–been  awhile since I read it), so obviously a 3 carat or close too it would look much bigger on us but again I like that look 🙂


Post # 24
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

princessforever77:  I dont think it’s your duty to share details with every compliment but a 3 carat on a wee finger especially, and seeing as oval faces up big will get lots of zomg is it real?? And chatter. 2 carat will still be quite big! Enjoy it.

Post # 26
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

princessforever77:  I’m excited to see what it ends up looking like, please post a follow up with pics!

Post # 27
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy

I’ve never regretted having a big ring (4.25 carat radiant diamond) on a small 4.5 finger because I love big rings and have always worn them, even when I was in my early 20s, a big 3 or 4 carat gemstone or simulant felt right. They aren’t for everyone though, it has to be what you love because a giant, flashy rock is just not cute on shy, self-conscious girl trying to hide her hand. A rock must be ROCKED.

Here are some reasons not to:

1) It draws attention and invites conversation about the piece. If that makes you uncomfortable or draws you into what you feel is a dilemna of “confessing” it’s not real, thats something to consider.

2) It’s impractical as hell, I do virtually nothing with my hands and it still bumps walls or the table at dinner. If you’re an active woman, that ring will spend its poor life in a dark jewelry box.

3) Impressions-Don’t get it to impress anyone but yourself, even when it’s a diamond, there is ALWAYS someone with a bigger, better ring. The size of the ring will cause people to make certain judgments about you, your finances,morals and relationship. Be ready to give zero fucks.

4) Shrinkage–The ring may seem huge to you at first, but it will appear visually smaller and smaller over time to the point where you’ll feel you have a tiny stone that must be “upgraded”. Kidding here. Not.

Good luck Bee, just get what you love!

Post # 28
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy

Post # 29
471 posts
Helper bee

So I have a 5.25 finger, but I wanted to chime in because what makes a difference to me is the setting. I have a 3.9 ct white sapphire (which is heavier than diamonds so above a 2ct in diamond weight) with a double halo and absolutely love it, but it sits really low on my hand. It doesn’t catch on anything and never feels in the way. If it sat high, however, I would never have gone for something this size.


Post # 30
9180 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

My ring is nowhere near as big as most on this thread, but yes, I very often wish Fiance had chosen something smaller, especially since my finger’s gone down about 2 full sizes since getting engaged. But as PPs have said, it all comes down to individual taste/preference. What’s “too big” and “too flashy” to one may be “understated” to another. There’s no right answer. But you should test run some rings of various sizes to see what’s right for you.

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