Post # 16
This is 2.02 carats and 8.2 mm diameter on a 3.5 finger. It doesn’t look at all door-knob to me but then I have a very simple, quite low setting. Even this size can look ungainly in a very high chunky setting
I would happily go to 3 carats but it would look big, however I’m 45, don’t care, and with my age and economic background people wouldn’t fall off their chairs or be bitchy.
I think 2 carats is a safe bet, I don’t knock or catch it and it is a nice proportion.
Post # 17
Here’s a 1.65 carat equivalent amora gem ultra set in a diamond halo on a size 3.5 finger. As you can see, it looks pretty big. So you may want to consider going a little smaller, especially with an oval since they have up larger. I’d go with a7x5- 8×6 with a halo or a 9×7 at the largest without a halo.
Post # 18
princessforever77: nope!! I have a 3 ct diamond and I’m beyond in love with It!! My ring finger is a 4.5-5 No regrets here!
Post # 19
“I guess if i’m honest i would like to pass it off as a diamond even though i love moissanite for what it is and am choosing it over a diamond for ethical reasons.”
if you want to pass it off definitely do not get 3 carats. The oval moissy already looks very different than a diamond and the bigger you go the more obvious that is. And it’s just not a believable size on most people, it will get a whole lot of inquiries which will make you sweat if your not honest about the stone.
the ethics thing is a reach for someone who wants to pretend they have a diamond… people who wear fake fur for ethical reasons would never want people to think it’s real…. Nothing wrong with just not wanting to pay the price tag of a big diamond but call a spade a spade. Loads of ethical, Canadian, and lab diamonds available at Brilliant Earth.
Post # 20
My center stone is a little over 3 carat and I love it (so far) . I have only had it 2 weeks so I may have not worn it long enogh to have been troubled or bothered by it. And to give reference, I wear a size 6! Hope this helps and best of luck with your exiciting choices!
Post # 21
sparklesalways: Yeah i guess that what you’re said is true. I don’t really feel comfortable having to lie to people if they outright ask me if it’s real.
I have looked into the sizes and Moissanite sizing and what they caim the carat weight equivalant to a diamnd is, is actually different from actual diamonds.
The measurements i’m looking at are 9×7 and 10×8 which is apparently a 2ct and 3ct however after research 9×7 is more like a well cut 1.66ct and a 10×8 is acceptable size for 2.25ct, I’ve decided to go with the smaller one as it will be sufficently big for my finger but not look like a dress ring.
I think i will be upfront with people about the stone as i agree it’s contradictive to avoid buying something for ethical reasons but then want people to think it’s the real thing.
Post # 22
IMO I would say go with what you want. My SO and I are currently designing a ring with a 2.74 elongated cushion cut stone and due to the cut and shap it’s going to look huge on my finger! (My finger is just a tad bigger than yours at 4.5) however, unlike other bees, my job only consists of editing photos so the use of my hands is pretty limited unless I’m called to shoot photos, which in that case I would have a stand in el-cheapo ring because I’d be afraid of losing my diamond.
Just so you can get an idea of my ring, the photo below isn’t mine but it’s similar. According to Pricescope, this woman has a 5.5 finger and her rock is just a little above 2 carats (I think she said like 2.02 or something–been awhile since I read it), so obviously a 3 carat or close too it would look much bigger on us but again I like that look 🙂
Post # 23
MrsSparkleBee13: & Drizzle: and not quite thread related but wow both of you ladies have gorgeous rings!
Post # 24
princessforever77: I dont think it’s your duty to share details with every compliment but a 3 carat on a wee finger especially, and seeing as oval faces up big will get lots of zomg is it real?? And chatter. 2 carat will still be quite big! Enjoy it.
Post # 25
MrsSparkleBee13: Firstly your ring is really beautiful! and the perfect size for your finger. Your wedding band is the same style i want. You’re right, ive done some research and the 9×7 is the best size as i won’t be having a halo. the 10×8 is getting too large for me aand i’ve also realised i’m actally more a 3.5 to 3.75 ring size not 4.
Post # 26
- Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate
princessforever77: I’m excited to see what it ends up looking like, please post a follow up with pics!
Post # 27
- Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy
I’ve never regretted having a big ring (4.25 carat radiant diamond) on a small 4.5 finger because I love big rings and have always worn them, even when I was in my early 20s, a big 3 or 4 carat gemstone or simulant felt right. They aren’t for everyone though, it has to be what you love because a giant, flashy rock is just not cute on shy, self-conscious girl trying to hide her hand. A rock must be ROCKED.
Here are some reasons not to:
1) It draws attention and invites conversation about the piece. If that makes you uncomfortable or draws you into what you feel is a dilemna of “confessing” it’s not real, thats something to consider.
2) It’s impractical as hell, I do virtually nothing with my hands and it still bumps walls or the table at dinner. If you’re an active woman, that ring will spend its poor life in a dark jewelry box.
3) Impressions-Don’t get it to impress anyone but yourself, even when it’s a diamond, there is ALWAYS someone with a bigger, better ring. The size of the ring will cause people to make certain judgments about you, your finances,morals and relationship. Be ready to give zero fucks.
4) Shrinkage–The ring may seem huge to you at first, but it will appear visually smaller and smaller over time to the point where you’ll feel you have a tiny stone that must be “upgraded”. Kidding here. Not.
Good luck Bee, just get what you love!
Post # 29
So I have a 5.25 finger, but I wanted to chime in because what makes a difference to me is the setting. I have a 3.9 ct white sapphire (which is heavier than diamonds so above a 2ct in diamond weight) with a double halo and absolutely love it, but it sits really low on my hand. It doesn’t catch on anything and never feels in the way. If it sat high, however, I would never have gone for something this size.
Post # 30
My ring is nowhere near as big as most on this thread, but yes, I very often wish Fiance had chosen something smaller, especially since my finger’s gone down about 2 full sizes since getting engaged. But as PPs have said, it all comes down to individual taste/preference. What’s “too big” and “too flashy” to one may be “understated” to another. There’s no right answer. But you should test run some rings of various sizes to see what’s right for you.