(Closed) Dad and Husband issues…please help

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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mml624:  It’s unfortunate that your husband did not ask your Dad to attend, but he (DH) is right. He has apologized. Your Dad is behaving like a child.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Here’s a thought, maybe u can explain this to your dad, perhaps the reason UR DH asked his dad is maybe so his dad doesn’t feel “left out” of the house buying experience, maybe UR DH felt like he should include his father in SOMETHING, so he chose that instead. I think maybe if u approach it that way maybe UR dad might understand. Either way, it wouldn’t hurt to apologize again and just say that he didn’t realize he would be hurting your dad… But honestly I do think UR dad is taking that incident wayyy too personally… I understand being hurt for a hot second but he’s taking it too far…

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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mml624:  You just need to click on reply at the end of each response.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Your father needs to understand that your husband also has a father too. Also, it sounds like your dad needs to let you go a little bit. I’m going through a similar situaton with my dad and FH. But I’m learning to FH before my dad.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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mml624:  ugh, you dad needs to stop pouting. I agree with a pp- help you dad see that ur DH has a father of his own and Judy wanted to share this experience with him. 

Honestly though, ur DH doesn’t really owe any explanations after apologizing. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

This kind of sounds like one of those situations where the future Mother-In-Law gets mad that the girlfriend wanted to go dress shopping with her own mom and not the Mother-In-Law.  I agree with all of the previous posters’ advice.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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mml624:  I can kind of understand why your dad would be hurt.  He was there everyday doing the work, by that I mean helping keep tabs, keep you updated, etc.  Then when the work is done, your husband asks his dad to come to the final approval.  I’m not saying your husband did anything wrong, but I can see how it might have made your dad feel unappreciated after investing what sounds like a lot of time.  I agree with explaining to your dad about trying to include DH’s dad.  That may help a little, but it seems like your dad was left out after helping so much.  Convince your DH to suck it up and get back in good with your dad so you can enjoy that new house!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your husband has apologised and your dad needs to accept it. I mean, what happens if a stranger does something and apologises once for it – does your dad follow them around demanding they keep on apologising?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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SLOBee:  Disagee!! Dress is the brides.  HOUSE is for both of them.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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pinkksnow:  I agree.  Maybe if DH wrote a nice note thanking his Father-In-Law for all the help, etc.  I can see that maybe DH wants HIS dad to think he handled it all, but it was really not nice.  Whether anyone accepts an apology and moves on is up to the person who was wronged (in this case, OPs dad).  Apologies are not a get out of jail free card. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Your Dad needs to grow up and learn to share!! Talk to him and try to work through it. If he doesn’t come around give him some space. You’re an only child? I doubt he’ll stay away for long. 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

juanita.kelly.9:  

Yes, the house is for both of them. That also includes the OP’s husband wanting his side of the family to see house and the getting ready process.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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hbroc90:  But here, DH excluded OPs family.  That is not right.

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