(Closed) dad and step mom possibly splitting up

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am really sorry. I haven’t dealt with something like this, but I hope it all works out for the best for everyone involved.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

so sorry 

 

good vibes sent your way

I hope you find a way to get things to work that make your day spectacular

Post # 5
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2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m so sorry.  I’m afraid I don’t have any advice.  Hopefully some of the other bees do…

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I’m so sorry this is going on Frown Unfortunately I don’t have any real advice either.  Would he consider going to therapy or something?  If things don’t work out hopefully they can act civil around each other long enough to both attend your wedding.  I’m sure they both love you, even if not each other at times, so they would not dream of missing the wedding. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Can you speak with your step mom? Tell her how important she is to you and mention that regardless of her situation with your father, you’ll always consider her family?

Also, 4 months away is a long time still.  You never know what is going to happen…

I feel for you, though.  That’s really tough.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with GreenBee.  If you haven’t, let your step-mom know that she will always be family to you. 

I can sort of relate to yoru situation b/c my fiance’s dad also carries around a lot of emotional baggage, and he can be equally difficult to deal with.  This has led to A LOT of strife in my fiance’s life — a nasty divorce for FI’s parents when Fiance was only 10, a huge falling out with his dad when he was in college, etc.  Just wanted to let you know that others have been there, and I know that it sucks.  I’m sending good thoughts your way and hoping that your family makes it through this and you have an amazing wedding day despite the current family drama. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you need to give your step family the benefit of the doubt, and at least talk to them about coming. I really think that you could be surprised. People will often rise to the occassion.

BUT, I do NOT think it is selfish to only have a reception if the people you care about will be there. Otherwise, what’s the point?

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