Post # 1
I’m so glad to be moving out soon. I get so hurt sometimes when dealing w/my dad. When he asks for help, I dread it. He is a terrible communicator and usually his go to method is to blow up or criticize. Today he cut his finger. I work in the med field and plan on getting more into the field. I tried my best to wrap the wound the way I know how, yet he does the complete opposite. He wrapped the bandaids parallel to the cut (which does nothing) and got upset w/me when I tried to do it my way. I love him, but I am happy to be done helping him. If I ever come over to help and he blows up, I’m just gonna leave. Anyone else have a parent like this? Just venting.
Post # 2
Sounds super stressful and like you have to walk on eggshells around him. It’s great that you have an exit plan, keep reminding yourself that this won’t be forever. GL
Post # 3
My dad is the same. I haven’t lived in the same house as him since I was 18 for certain reasons, love him but he drives me nuts. Vent away dear!
Post # 4
I’ve had this issue with my dad my whole life. Moving out felt so liberating and it gave me confidence to protect my own well being. So one day my dad was being especially mean over the phone. I had some mail I needed to pick up and he was making the whole thing unnecessarily difficult. Well it was the last straw for me, so I marched over there, told him he was not entitled to speak to me that way, demanded I be respected and left. He called trying to apologize for a couple weeks after that but I was so heated over the whole thing I needed a break to breathe. I did eventually forgive him and honest to god, he’s gotten better. His overall hostility has noticeably decreased and he hasn’t targeted me with his anger since that incident. So as uncomfortable as it may be, sometimes you’ve got to just be honest with people about how they’re acting and how it makes you feel. He may be receptive, he may not. But for your own mental/emotional health, you’ve got to draw that line and decide when enough is enough. By the time I was exploding back at my dad, I was 100% sure I’d rather not have him in my life if he was going to continue treating me like shit so I didn’t care what kind of fallout followed. It’s ok to decide that you don’t need your parents in your life anymore, especially when they don’t value you anyway.
Post # 5
I love my dad, but seriously, our relationship got BETTER once we no longer lived in the same house.