(Closed) Dad decided he doesn't want to walk me down the aisle…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m a 3 time MOB and I think your Dad needs to grow up here.  You are his Dirty Delete.  This is his once in a lifetime moment with you and he is throwing it out because he is getting a divorce and feels wierd about being a wedding.  I would buy that if he were a Groomsmen in a buddy’s wedding, but not being the FOB in his DD’s wedding.  Sorry, not setting well with me.  Step up to the plate, Dad.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh I’m so sorry! I’d be devastated! I do think he needs to pull it together. He’s not really “in the wedding party” and doesn’t have to do anything but physically walk you down the aisle. Is he still planning on attending the wedding? I see you’re getting married in Disney (nice!), did he book his hotel/tickets, etc?

Maybe he will come around. Can one of your sister speak to him?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

seems like he is really ashamed of his actions. But it is his own fault. He should not make you suffer and not have a father to walk you down the aisle because of his shameful mistakes. He needs to get over himself. Apparently he still hasn’t figured out it’s not all about him.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry – is there anyone else you can ask if he doesn’t come around?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  I agree that your father should be putting you before his marital/spousal issues.  It’s just plain ridiculous to do this to you, and I feel, very selfish.  I think you guys need a serious discussion – he probably is so wrapped up in his own turmoil that he is not even thinking about the effect this will have on you.  Sending hugs, hope this gets resolved

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Have your mom walk you down! Or Your sister.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@prisigtr: I think that is a bit of a selfish decision on the part of your father. I can understand the awkwardness of a wedding if he is in the process of a divorce but that should not prevent him from walking his daughter down the aisle! Seriously, he should be excited because he is your father to be proudly walking you down the aisle. Maybe he also feels awkward seeing you mother at the wedding too since he cheated on her and is ashamed of his actions from the past. But still, he needs to step up and be your dad and walk you down the aisle. But if you can’t change his mind, I would ask a male relative that you are close to like an uncle. I am sorry that this is happening to you. Maybe he will change his mind? 

 

Post # 12
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry this is happening to you !

 

Is his decision final ? Have you told him how you feel ?

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow, definitely a selfish move on your dad’s part. Its his daughter’s wedding for crying outloud! You’d think he could put those issues aside for one day – apparently your mother is! Are you guys super close? I say this because there are definite degrees of closeness, even if he has been a great dad. Me and my father just aren’t close – we get along fine and everything, but we just don’t have that daddy/daughter relationship. I’d be perfectly fine with my stepdad giving me away to be honest with you – him and I are actually closer. If you’re close though then thats really troubling Frown. Hopefully he comes around quick! It sucks that this is all due to his own initial mistakes of being unfaithful. Time to man up!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@prisigtr:  I’m so sorry your dad is doing this to you. I feel like if your mom is a big enough person to be okay with him walking you down the aisle, he should be so grateful for the opportunity.

As hard as it is, I can’t help but feel like he doesn’t deserve the privilege of walking you down the aisle. On top of the hurt he’s caused by his infidelity, he’s now placing his pride above your happiness. Do you really want someone like that to walk you down the aisle? Ask your mom, or someone else who is important to you (and deserves the honour).

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