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About 4 weeks ago my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer, thats now spread to his brain. He has 2 tumors in his brain, one 3CM big. we first noticed because my dad was dragging one of his legs and not able to walk on it. He just finished radiation to his brain today, and is going to start chemo therapy within the next few weeks. He is also walking on a cane now. I just cant believe it. One day my dad was happy and fine and it seems like literally over night he was sick. im concerned because my wedding is on may 4th 2013, and im worried he may not have the strength or be too ill to walk me down the aisle. I guess im just looking for any bees who have been through the similar situation and any kind encouraging words. I must say as well, my fiance has been nothing but supportive, I dont know if I wouldve remained sane through this whole ordeal.
Thank you bees
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Hugs im so sorry to hear this and what your going through I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers!
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I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts go out to you and your family. My dad had a scare with lung cancer recently (it turned out not to be so. thankfully) so I can only *begin* to imagine what you are going through.
I think the most important thing for you is to be strong and to stay positive.
Let’s hope that he is able to stand tall and walk you down the aisle in May, but I am sure you will be overjoyed to have him there in any capacity.
Hugs to you and your family!
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Hugs to you. i haven’t been in an identical situation, but my mother had skin cancer that spread to her brain. she had chemo that worked really well for her (tumours that she had in her eyes literally disappeared, the drs couldnt believe it!), but apparently skin cancer is really vicious and they just caught it too late In my mums case. it sounds like your dad is doing well, and chemotherapy can literally work miracles now, so you have to stay positive for your dad and kee encouraging him. I know that the roller coaster of emotions can be very tough to handle, and its tough hearing bad news, then good news, then bad news, etc, but it sounds like you have a great support in your fiancé. What’s your dads diagnosis?
there was an article in a British newspaper recently that focused on women who were living with cancer. One particular case revolved around a woman who had a brain tumour, and had chemo to treat it. The tumour never got smaller, but it also never got bigger, so 13 years after diagnosis she was able to live normally and was back a work, etc, although still technically terminally ill. so although its a horrible situation there is always hope.
i hope your dad responds well to treatment, thinking of you and your family xxx
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Thank you bees
@Yellwill, My dads diagnosis is stage 4 lung cancer.
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So sorry to hear this. I don’t know if this will help you at all, but your story immediately reminded me of the story of this blogger: http://www.pleasantliving.org
The blog is EXTREMELY religious in tone, warning, (I’m not but I glaze over that because I just like the blogger), but she has an amazing story. She was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer in her early 20s, fought it, beat it, only to have it come back in her brain, fought that, and BEAT THAT TOO. It’s very inspirational to see how well she is doing now and how really scary things like cancer spreading to the brain are beatable.
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I am so so sorry that you are going through this right now, and I wish the best for your dad & your family. Fighting is so hard & chemo takes a huge toll. I have 2 examples for you, one is slightly better than the other but both have good parts. My brother was diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma in 2009, they found it in his lymph nodes & it was already in his brain and spine. They did surgery on his brain, radiation a few times, and it always worked, he was always better afterwards and able to live life normally! after the last round of radiation he got sick again about 6 months later and it was back in his spine, brain and had spread to many other organs. They did chemo & radiation but it was the last thing they could do. Now this might sound really depressing but the outcome was that tho he did not make it, he did pass away in 2011, he was able to fight and able to live normally for about a year and a half while fighting the cancer. And they didn’t have much hope he would last that long, they gave him 2 months from the diagnosis, and he lived 2 years. Now a little bit of a better story, my aunt had bowel cancer and was on hospice care, (so they were just treating her pain, knowing she would pass away from the cancer). My cousin had been with the same man for 10 years, they had 4 kids and had just never planned on marrying. Since my aunt was in such bad shape my cousin decided to get married so that her mother would be there for it, this was in 2008. My aunt was in a wheelchair and very frail but was at the wedding and was up there with her daughter and got to see her get married even in her weakened state, which was great. Flash forward to today, my aunt got better OUT OF NOWHERE. there was literally no reason for it. and she is still here today, she does everything she was able to before she got sick. she still does have to get treatment, and sometimes she does get sick, but it was a miracle and no one would have expected her to get better.
My reasons for telling you both of these stories (even tho they may just seem depressing) is that as long as your dad has some fight in him, there’s a good chance he will pull through. Miracles do happen, and just don’t let the worry of what may happen ruin the time you do have with him now. Cherish the times when he’s feeling well and make the most of them. I really will pray for your dad, I can’t imagine what a tough situation this is for you, and it may be really hard to think positively, but it’s very important that you do, for yourself and for your dad. Also great to hear that your Fiance is such a great support system.
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- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@ashley050406: I’m so sorry! Giant HUGS!
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I don’t have any experience in this, but I wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts. ((Hugs))
Post # 13
I went through this exact thing in 2010/2011 with my step mother. She was diagnosed with lung cancer, treated for that, and while doing body scans, they found that tumours had moved to her brain and bones.
If you need someone to talk to, please message me. I’m not super comfortable putting her story and my families all over the internet, but I am always willing to try to support someone going through what we did in private.
Post # 14
@ashley050406: Hi, we are wedding day twins 🙂 among other things. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in February 2010 (she was a smoker). She passed away July 2012, after several bouts of radiation and chemo. Her cancer was stage IV when they found it and in her lymph system, which meant it had the ability to spread anywhere. It eventually spread to her kidneys and her bones, but never made it to her brain. She became very weak and ended up at first with a walker, then in a wheelchair and wearing Depends because the radiation irritated her intestines so much. She was very strong-willed and stayed extremely positive through it all, and I honestly believe her attitude aided her health. The best advice I can give you is to spend as much time with your dad as you can, which I know might be kind of hard with the big day nearing soon. I am sure your dad wants nothing more than to be able to walk his daughter down the aisle, and the best you can do is take everything one day at a time, and just know he is going to be there no matter what.
Please let me know if you want to talk, I am sending some love your way and lots of hugs.