(Closed) Dad getting married on the 12th…. I don’t want to go *LONG-ish*

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

@Baby_PebbleS: Awww, I wish I had some advice. Trust me if no one answered you before it was because we didn’t see it or just didn’t know what to say. I think you have a right to be  upset. I would not however skip the wedding. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Have you had a conversation with him about these things? If you haven’t, since it is bothering you this much, I really think sitting him down and explaining your feelings to him would be the way to go. From what you have stated, this would bother me too.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry, @Baby_PebbleS:, that’s a sucky spot to be in. I don’t know that I can offer you much advice, but I’d say consider it thoroughly with your husband and make a thoughtful decision. While you may not support your father’s view of marriage (and the seeming lack of respect for it), being there will help build a relationship with his new wife. You make it sound like she’s decent and not difficult to deal with or anything, so going to the wedding if not for your dad could at least be a step in your relationship with her. I hope that you find a solution that works for you, and if you decide not to go, I’d tell your dad why flat out. He’ll likely be offended if you’re not showing up, so I’d lay it out there. Best of luck, what a tricky spot.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Baby_PebbleS: I don’t have advice, but I can send *HUGS* your way! i’m sorry you’re in such a sucky situation.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

im sorry but its not up to you to decide if he is marrying for the right or wrong reasons and who are you to say that people should only marry for love

there are A LOT of successful marriages out there based on respect and companionship. there is a lady outside my office that had an arranged marriage and 10yrs later she is very much in love with her husband, wasnt always that way but it is now

as far as your dad goes, you need to see your dad as an adult and even parents are fallible and make bad decisions  –  who knows, maybe his Fiance is on board with your dad and his silly ideas, no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors with a couple

 

Post # 10
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  • Wedding: May 2010

@Baby_PebbleS: didnt offend me but maybe because im older im aware there are many differnt types of love and not all marriages are based on passion and love – anyways i didnt mean to come on as strong either

one more thing i would like to say is that when it comes to family you dont have to love them. ask yourself, if they were a stranger would i want to be friends with that person? would i spend my time and energy wanting to know them?  if no then ask yourself should you keep trying to invest the energy to maintain a relationship with that person?  doesnt mean you have to never speak to them again but you dont have to keep trying to create a bond that isnt there or emotionally fulfilling  for you – i learnt this with my mum.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Baby_PebbleS:

Oh WoW!  I feel sorry for you.  I hope she gets a prenup!  Yikes, she has money and he has a gambling problem.  Poor lady! There’s nothing that you can really do.  It really (unfortunately) is between them.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh wow! I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to offer some internet support! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this :(.

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