Post # 61
I think you’ll get your wedding and honeymoon. In 10 weeks you’ll be back at home. I’m really rooting for you guys.
The first time I got married it was so uneventful, we went to the courthouse and then back to work. It was really sad, but he needed my insurance to get a life saving surgery.
Then when I had a second chance at wedding event this time around I was excited – a real event! With people! I had it all planned and paid for (Jacksn Hole nonetheless) so I just said good by to that this month (got the money back thankfully). I am mourning what was. But I’m nearly over that right now, I have the funds to fly home to see my dad more now. The key to life is to be flexible. I do hope that this time around, for the elopement it will be at least how we want it. Like you – you just want it to go your way at some point! This is a good place for venting.
Post # 62
@sienna76: Thanks. I’m hoping you have some success too!
Post # 64
I have to share my story with you quickly:
If your dad passes (God forbid) about 1 month or so BEFORE your wedding: you will not be able to have it. I wasn’t able to when my grams died. She passed 6 weeks before my wedding and we postponed it 8 months because the entire family was mourning. So if your dad passes before the wedding there is a hueg chance you will not be well enough to go on with the wedding at its set time anyways…
So, I think about that…I hope he makes it and I will be praying for him to pull through to see you make it down the isle and then some. I can imagine this is such a hard and devastating time for you. *hugs* Sending love….
Post # 65
Honestly, there’s no right or wrong here – only what works for you. People who suggest you should have the wedding with him present may not have thought through the physical effects of terminal illness. I know my father (who in other circumstances would have gone through hell and high water to get to my wedding) would not have coped with it enear the end of his life. Dying is hard and the things which make it easier can sap your strength.
So do what works for you. Have a gorgeous elopement, show him the photographs if that is feasible and don’t feel guilty. Good luck!