(Closed) Dad insisting on wearing tux even though groom wearing suit

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

My bff’s husband and groomsmen all wore suits to their wedding, her dad wore a tux, I didn’t even notice except that she told me before hand he was wearing one.

honestly it doesn’t make that big a difference, let him wear a tux to his daughters wedding but remind him the bridal party’s choice of clothing is a decision you and your fi have made together and you are happy with it

Post # 4
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I agree it’ll look silly in the photos. I’m facing the opposite problem as my Future Father-In-Law refuses to wear formal attire and will be wearing his old ill-fitting suit.

It’s annoying but I’m letting it go. 

Post # 5
2127 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Tuxedos are for formal occasions after dark and you should only dress as formal as the hosts, never more so. Tell your dad this, but if he still insists then let him. It’s harmless really, and he’ll be happy. Your photos will be fine, he’ll probably look quite sweet.

Post # 6
2412 posts
Buzzing bee

More typically, all the men in our wedding party wore “morning coats and formal pants” and my dad categorically refused to do so, saying  that I’d bought him his “good suit” (which I had), and that meant more to him than wearing a “monkey suit”.

No one noticedthen, and no one will notice now.

Save the “battles” for something important!


Post # 8
9565 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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emilyofnewmoon:  my dad was the only person wearing a tux at my outdoor garden wedding. Groom was in light grey suit. He was proud of his daughters wedding day and wanted to wear it- I thought that was so sweet. I loved it. Please dont boss your dad around and let the man wear a tux! It’s not weird looking at all- it’s always appropriate to wear a tux to a formal wedding, even if it’s not black tie. (That why people say “black tie optional” isn’t really a thing- black tie is always an option.)

Tell him he can wear what he wants and your Fiance will be dressing himself as well. This is not something to cause a lot of drama over. It’s not rude for him to wear it and it won’t look weird- he’s the father of the bride.

Post # 9
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

He’s a grown man who can dress himself… Let it go.

Post # 11
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Who cares? You are way overthinking this. Just let the man wear his tux if that’s what he feels comfortable doing. No one will notice or even care, I’m sure.

Post # 12
137 posts
Blushing bee

Let him wear the tux!! It will be like his party piece- maybe everyone will think you’ve hired a magician 😁

Post # 13
501 posts
Busy bee

He sounds like a bit of a control freak. He’s making rude comments about your fiance and worrying about what he’s wearing rather than you being happy. I would let it go so that you can focus on your fiance and being happy. 

Post # 15
2847 posts
Sugar bee

It sounds like your dad is just really old school. From the way he was raised, it’s disrespectful for your Fiance not to dress to the nines for an occasion like this. Its kind of like how people used to really dress up for church and now people just go in jeans and ratty clothes (depending on where you live of course). I know my dad is from a very different generation than mine and is used to traditions which arent always followed anymore. At any rate, your dad will look great in his tux. 

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