(Closed) Dad is inviting people I don’t know

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is your dad paying for your wedding? If so, then he does get some say.

I didn’t allow anyone to come to my wedding that I didn’t know personally. I seriously only wanted to see my family and bff’s smiling faces when I walked down the aisle so I put my foot down. We didn’t allow family friends.

Post # 4
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

who is paying for the wedding? If your dad is contributing, then he gets some say on the guest list.

If not, tell him “you get ‘x’ number of invites. Choose wisely.”

Post # 5
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i think the best route would be to just say it…. never mind about being rude. I would let him handle the extra guests he invited because he is closer to them than you are. Let him know you simply can’t afford or have room for the extra people and to let these guests know asap that you are terribly sorry but it just can’t be done. Period. Sorry for all the confusion. There is no right and easy way to do it… it sucks but he created the problem and needs to be a part of the solution. Trust me, sometimes the +1’s bring +1’s….. there’s no way of knowing who will actually show up to your wedding even with the greatest care planning it. Darling Husband and I were relatively sure we knew 100% of people coming the week before, we had 2 people show up uninvited and it was a very small reception. It was awkward for them though, never for the couple! 

Post # 7
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@eperez21:  Tell your father that he either has to pay for their plates or he has to uninvite them.

Post # 8
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just be honest with your father. Tell him you are already at your limit for how many people you can invite. Say I am sorry dad you can only invite 5 people plus their dates. Then make him decide who he wants to invite. Just give him a limit and leave it at that. Or if he is set on inviting 10 people tell him that he has to pay for all guest over the 5 you originally stated (or something a long those lines). Since your father has contributed a few small things then he should be able to invite a couple people regardless of how well you know them/don’t.

Post # 9
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@eperez21:  ok then  – he gets the number of invites you give him and that’s it. Exceptions for your godfather seem ok….but people he has been out of contact with and you don’t know? Draw the line.

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