Post # 1
My dad (who I don’t have the greatest relationship with) is remarried and my stepmom has two kids (they’re in their 20s so not really kids). One of them I have not spoken to in like two years since he met his gf who I have not even met. Since we are having a small low-budget wedding I invited no plus ones, and that included my bro’s gf. However, since my brohter I’m pretty sure hasn’t even looked at the invitation I asked my stepmom to please make sure he understood that it was no plus ones. She didn’t say anything to me but then told my dad what an awkward situation I was putting her in etc. So my dad, who is not helping AT ALL wiht the wedding, came to demand that I put bro’s gf in the invite. I told him no way and that if they felt very offended he didn’t have to come either (he’s not walking me down the isle or anything so idc). The conversation got nasty and I sent him to hell. Do you ladies think I was too harsh? Any advice?
edit: my dad didn’t even invite me to his wedding.
Post # 3
It does seem like the argument escalated very quickly. I would reach out to your father and let him know that you would really like to have him there on your wedding day but because of budget and space issues you are simply not able to include plus ones for anyone who isn’t married or engaged. If he choses to miss your wedding because his step-son’s girlfriend isn’t invited then that’s his loss. At least you know you took the high road and let him know you wanted him there.
Post # 4
Hmmm… if your step-bro has been dating his girlfriend for 2 years now, then it sounds like a pretty serious relationship. In that case, I would just add the girlfriend and be done with it.
Post # 5
You did kind of put her in an awkward position, assuming your relationship is not strong (I assume that if you arne’t close to your dad,. you aren’t close to her?)- I would say you should have called him yourself to reiterate the one only on the invite, and to tell him it was a financial decision, not a personal one.
I think you should apologize, but that is just my opinion. It is hard to determine without knowing the true history of the relationships.