(Closed) Dad MIA, escort down the aisle on wedding day?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1356 posts
Bumble bee

What a tough situation. Maybe it would help if he knew you really didnt’ care about the money? But in the grand scheme it sounds like your mom may be the better option – she has been the consistant one, the one always there for you. Good luck!

Post # 4
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

do you have any one else to ask? maybe grandfather or uncle? someone who’s been a constant support for you? or like august15bride suggested, your mom?

Post # 5
5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

When my sister got married it was so short notice my dad, step dad, and grandpa were all busy. She asked our uncle. It worked out well.

You should do whatever feels most comfortable for you. If having your Mom give you away makes you feel comfortable and you know for sure she will show, then go for it!

Post # 7
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

I also applaud you for being the bigger person to ask him to begin with, but I would shy away from letting him walk you down the isle. Your mom raised you and really wants to walk you down the isle herself, so I would say let her do it! Ultimately, it’s whatever is in your heart, but from what you’re telling us about him flaking out, i would give the honor to the person who has been there for you all of your life.

Post # 8
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

If he paid, would you have let him walk you down the aisle?

How does your mom feel about it?

What does your gut say? 

I don’t think paying for anything should allow him to walk you down the aisle, but it depends on how you really feel about.  If he does show up and make a fuss, just stick with your decision (unless you really want to give him that honor).


Post # 9
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Let your mom walk you down the aisle unless you *really* want him to do it. It’s a shame that he won’t return your calls, though…

Post # 10
17 posts
  • Wedding: November 2009

I have a sadly similar story with my father. My mother is walking me down the aisle because she raised me and if anyone is going to give me away, she thinks it should be her (I agree).

This may be one of the few instances where you have good memories AND your father but keep in mind who has always been there for you….

Best of luck!!

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