Post # 1
Hi there bees, I was just wondering what everyone is doing for this. Are most of you who have a set of parents alive having just your dad walk you up the aisle and your mom come in before or are you having both parents walk you up the aisle? I am worn on which I should do…I am pretty traditional, so I like the idea of dad walking me, but my mom wants to walk with me as well.
Post # 2
I had both walk me down the aisle. It was a bit of a squeeze but I wouldn’t have had it any other way 🙂
Post # 3
BelleEtoile: I’m having my dad and my step-dad. I think you can do whatever you like but I think it should be based on what would make YOU happy, don’t decide based on what would make others happy!
As you said, traditionally its just dad so if you are traditional, and you like that idea, just have dad do it. You can always have your mum meet you at the top and have them both ‘give’ you to your husband (I use the term ‘give’ very loosely for obvious reasons!) but its a way to ackowledge them both but still keep it traditional!
Post # 4
My older brother walked my mom up, and just my dad walked me up the aisle
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
BelleEtoile: im an encore bride so I can share two scenarios with you.
For my first wedding, mom walked in before and dad walked me down the aisle, lifted the veil and all that. I loved having him present me and it was important to me that we have that moment just us.
This time around, I’ve asked my SO to walk down the aisle with me. We’re a little bit older (32) so having parents present us seems to not fit. And I like the thought that were walking into the marriage together, not separately.
I’ve heard of it being done in a variety of ways so it’s your choice and depends on what fits you most. I knew a girl who was estranged from her father so he attended the wedding but her mom brought her down the aisle. If your equally close to both parents, have them both involved. Or find a way to have your mom be a part of the ceremony somehow. such as handing her a flower from your bouquet as you pass her if dad brings you down. Such a small move is so symbolic and can still involve her while holding close to tradition.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
My brother walked my mother down the aisle before my party and I. I had my mother and mother in law light the candles for the unity ceremony, then dad and I walked down. I think you could have both parents walk you since the officiant usually asks “who gives this bride away.” And both parents speak our the father in response for his wife, answers. Ultimately it’s what you want.
Post # 7
I think you can do it either way. I’m just having my dad walk me down the isle. 1- because I’m pretty traditional and 2 – because I think that’ll be a special moment for the 2 of us and I feel like I don’t get that many with just my dad.