Dad remarrying

posted 6 days ago in Family
Post # 2
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1004 posts
Bumble bee

Bee – you get one day. One day. That is your day to celebrate your wedding. If your father chooses any of the other days (364 others to choose from) to celebrate his new marriage, he has that right. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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@herewego2022:  no one would ever get married if we all waited for the calendars to be open. It’s okay that it makes you feel unhappy, but I don’t think it’ll overshadow your wedding at all. After the year we’ve all had, I think the more love we get to celebrate, the better off we’ll all be. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

I do think it’s unreasonable to expect to have an entire year to yourself where nobody else can get married! It’s okay for you to be frustrated, but maybe you can try to re-focus some of that energy into wedding planning along with your dad and sharing this special experience with him.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

This can’t be real….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

Yes, you’re being unreasonable.  As long as they don’t get married the same day, I don’t see a problem.

However, I wonder why it’s upsetting you so much.  Are you unhappy about his getting remarried?

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2022

How close together are the weddings? If a lot of the same family members are invited to both and they’re really close together (like consecutive weekends), that could cause a travel hardship for people. Beyond that, I agree with the others. It’s one day, you don’t get the whole year.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

So basically not even the same season?

Bee–vent away here, and then let it go. Your wedding will be no less special because your father is remarrying. There is plenty enough joy to go around.

As a PP asked–do you have an issue with him getting remarried or the woman he is marrying?

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

So, by extension, let’s say you have two siblings, five very close friends, and divorced or unmarried parents. That means that for you and all of them to get married, it should take TEN YEARS. Right? Because everyone gets a year to shine all by themselves? 

Do you see how ridiculous this is? The world doesn’t stop turning because you are getting married.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I mean if anything… your dad is much older so you should let him go first really…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

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@herewego2022:  Yes, you’re being unreasonable. Your day is special to you and your SO, but I’m reality no one is going to care as much as you do. They attend, leave and continue with their lives. Your wedding is not life changing for your guests. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Your dad just wants to start his new life with someone he loves…let him and be happy for him. Don’t be petty about it because it should be YOUR year to get married. Trust me, it’s not worth it to hold it against him or have any resentment towards his date choice (unless it’s on the same day as yours!).  Two of my brothers got married in the same year…one in June, the other in August. The amount of fighting and bickering between their fiancees because it was in the same year was unreal.  One girl didn’t care about the date, she just wanted to marry my brother. The other had so much resentment and bitterness over it because she wanted her wedding to be the only one in our family that year and she wanted all the attention.  She complained up to the day of her wedding and even after.  Too much drama!!  It drove us all nuts and even to this day, they don’t get along.  You will get your big day too and you can make it as unique and special as you want.  No one can take that away from you. But try to be happy for your dad too.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you want your Dad  to be happy? If so, why would you stand in his way?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

The… year… you get married? It won’t take away from your day. You’ll have your spotlight even if he gets married in the same YEAR

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