Post # 1
Bees I am so stressed out. On friday i got a call from my mom telling me my dad had a stroke. He got the stroke due to a infection after dental work. Saturday comes he is doing fine from the stroke but will have to stay at the hospital for a week due to the infection being so severe and affecting his heart. His recovery seemed to be improving each day and the doctors were intouch with his insurance company to come up with a plan for him to come to Florida (he’s in new York) for my 9/9/12 wedding. Now this morning he had another stroke I am completely devastated and now I am starting to come to the realization he may not be able to travel. My dad has told me not to cancel the wedding (he paid for the entire thing) But I cant even focus on doing the final touches on this wedding right now. Between my dad being sick and dealing with some rude guest(another long story) I wished I would have just eloped 🙁
Thanks for letting me vent bees
Post # 3
Oh my gosh I am so sorry this is happening!!! hugs!!
Post # 4
I am very sorry this happened *hugs*
Post # 5
I hope your dad makes a full and swift recovery. Hang in there!
Post # 6
In a way, I understand what you are going through. Not from the first person parent perspective, but we just lost my fiance’s dad unexpectedly a month ago, and it has completely changed the tone of the wedding and the excitement I had for it. He was truly a pillar of the family, and a bright light in all our lives. Now I just feel this pang of sadness and I hope that I can get the excitement back.
If I can offer any comfort, it’s what people keep telling me- he would want it to continue, and if not just for me, but to give the rest of the family and everyone else around something to look forward to. It may seem like “bad” timing because of what’s happening, but really it’s good because there’s something happy to focus on. It just lets you refocus on the actual marriage, and not just the wedding “event.”
I wish you the best!
Post # 7
Just because he can’t travel doesn’t mean he won’t be there. I’m soooo sorry that all of this happenEd and I sincerely hope your father gets better. If he can’t travel, there’s Skype, there’s webcams….it won’t be ideal, but it can work…your Daddy wants you to enjoy your day, and even though it’s hard, you enjoy it for him because it’s the best he can do just now.
Post # 8
I hope he makes a speedy recovery!
Post # 9
@lpisanelli: I am so sorry, that is very hard. Can you get a videographer or do it over skype?
Post # 10
Not to turn this into myself, but my dad had a massive stroke at the beginning of july, he was in the icu for a week, they determined the cause and it was a birth defect – malformed blood vessels in the brain. Well he had brain surgery a wrek ago, doing well so far. But it is a very real emotion of realizing that your dad may not make it for your wedding. I had so many breakdowns, and i am so unprepared to not have my dad in my life and especially not there to walk me down the aisle. So i completrly understand and wish the best for you and will keep you in my thoughts.
Post # 11
Went up to new York for a few days and my dad was doing great when I left yesterday morning. I got back to Florida and it wasn’t even 5 minutes that I was home that he has blood clots in both lungs and is now in critical but stable condition. I’m devestated right now.
Post # 12
You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers, I hope his condition improves soon!
Post # 13
Hugs and prayers. I’ve been there. PM me if you need.
Post # 14
I can completely relate to you. My Dad passed away last week, 7 weeks before the wedding and it’s devestating (I’m not saying this will happen to your Dad). We are going ahead with the wedding as it was my Dads wishes for us and I will miss him so much.
Stay strong and I hope he makes a full recovery
Post # 15
Thank you to everyone that has posted. It means the world to me because some of you bees have similar things going on like me makes me feel less lonely and there is comfort to know I’m not alone. I will keep on posting updates and hope in the future I can help other bees in this simular situation. Right now it’s so hard I cry alot and it takes every ounce of energy I have to even just keep my normal day to day things going but with the help of my fiancé I know he will help me finish planning this wedding as hard as it is right now.
Post # 16
So sorry that your Dad is unwell. I hope he does make a speedy recovery and that your wedding day will be magical. I lost my Daddy 6 weeks after our wedding very unexpectedly too. It was a week before Thanksgiving and all the holidays it just crushed me…It is very hard as we get older we have to worry about our parents getting older too. Just know that your Dad is happy you found a man that will love you as much as he has loved you all his life and he does not want you to post pone anything no matter what. He just wants you to be happy. And I’m sure your Dad is a fighter and I genuinely hope he will be bettter soon. Even if he cant make it to the wedding, and has to stay home, he will always be with you! Keep planning your big day. This is what he wants for his baby girl i’m sure! *HUGS*