Dad vs. Stepdad…walking down aisle…help!

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

What about having all the parents process in and then you follow? Like your FI’s parents, then your Fiance, your parents in whatever order, then you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I have heard of dads and stepdads splitting the walk. The stepdad walks you to the midway point and then your dad takes you the rest of the way. That is an option.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ive seen some that have 1 father (or step father) walk you half way down, and then the next father take you the rest of the way. That way they each get their moment, and have the honor of walking you down the aisle…its just not the full aisle. ๐Ÿ™‚

Its absolutely not tacky to go it alone or have one on each arm. They can shut it for 5 minutes to walk you down…they dont have to talk to each other. hahaha. And maybe just side step the whole “who gives this woman away” thing…you arent property anyway, so no one needs to officially say they are giving you away. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have this same issue. I am actually having my mother walk me down but having my father and stepfather walk side by side in the family’s procession.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think as long as both dads are okay with it you should do it.  It is not at all tacky!  I think it is a beautiful way of honoring both of your dads.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have the same situation.  Actually I am hoping my father decides not to come to the wedding (different story in and of itself though).  I will be having both fully walk me down the aisle, one on each side.  If they care about me they’ll accept my decision.  Hopefully things work out for you!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have the same situation.  Actually I am hoping my father decides not to come to the wedding (different story in and of itself though).  I will be having both fully walk me down the aisle, one on each side.  If they care about me they’ll accept my decision.  Hopefully things work out for you!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m just walking by myself.  It’s easier and that way no one gets mad at who gets to go first or anything like that. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am in a similar situation, but mine gets worse!  My parents got divorced when I was two.  I don’t have much of a relationship with my father.  My grandfather has been my constant father figure so I really want him to walk me down the isle.  But I also have a step dad who I am close with and he is helping to pay for my wedding!  How do you choose and not hurt someones feelings? Three men they can’t all walk me down the isle! 

 

I do like the idea of the half isle walks.  And I do not think its tacky to have both of them walk you down the isle, nor to have your mom do it!  I think its very sweet!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My friend who struggled to choose between a father she didn’t have a great relationship with and a stepfather who had done a great job helping raise her since she was 10 ended up asking her older brother to walk her down. There’s infinite options for this part of the ceremony and yes there is potential for feelings to be hurt but at the end of the day this is a big moment and you need to be 100% comfortable, regardless!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think you should have them both walk you down the aisle since they have both been steady in your life.  They should be able to be civil to one another for one day to share in this special moment for their daughter ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My FI’s cousin had both her stepfather and father walk her down the isle – one on each side. It’s was pretty cute

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

At the most recent wedding I went to, the bride’s stepfather walked her down halfway and then her father took over and walked her the rest of the way.  I don’t think either this way or having one dad in each arm is tacky.

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