(Closed) Dad wants me to save my wedding dress…but I don’t really care to?!

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m pretty sure I’ll be selling mine. I spent twice my original budget on the dress because it was just The One, but I only did it with the knowledge that I would (hopefully) get some of it back after selling it.

Post # 18
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5976 posts
Bee Keeper

Poop…the picture of my mom was too big. Not sure how to drop the size…

Post # 19
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5976 posts
Bee Keeper

Here we go :o)

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Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I will be selling my dress. There are too many factors against it- the uncertainty that I will ever had a girl to pass it to (we only want 1-2 kids, and what if they are both boys?), would she even want something old? I know I don’t!, I don’t want to haul the dress with us from grad school to phd school to job area. from house to house to house. Annoying!, and finally, our wedding is going to cost us an arm and a leg anyhow (well, for us $5,000 is a whole ton since we’re broke students!) and we’d like to recoup some of the money by selling things like the decorations and my dress. My Fiance will be able to rewear his suit over and over (navy is a classic suit color), but my dress? There is no other appropriate time to wear a dress like that! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

Thanks! Luckily, my mom and I were about the same size when we got married, and I had a fabulous seamstress! I just looked at it and was like, “it would be cute if it didn’t have these sleeves…or this weird top…”

I definitely don’t blame you girls for selling your desses though! They’re so expensive for a one time wear, and you’re right. You can’t assume you’ll have a daughter, and one who will have the same taste as you did now! Maybe save the veil…I’ve heard a lot more girls wear their mom’s veils than their dresses…

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I thought about it…but Fiance has requested that I keep it!

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I am absolutely keeping my gown! Which is out of character for me because I love to get rid of things, and I’m the least sentimental person around!  But I hope you keep yours too!  Here’s why I’m keeping it:

1. It was 4x my alloted dress budget!

2. When we got engaged, my mom took me to the attic to show me her gown.  Even though I am not wearing, (she didn’t expect me to!) It was SO great to see it.  That in and of itself is a “moment”.

3. I’m not saving it with the hopes of my future child wearing it, but if they want to cut it up and use it to make a sash around their gown, or a fabric flower embellishment to their gown that would be neat!

4.  Whatever amount of money you get for it is nothing in comparison to the memories it’s worth. 

5.  A lot of times, the wedding gown has more significance for other people than for you.  I remember wearing my grandmother’s wedding gown while playing dress up as a girl.  She didn’t care when we wore it around the house with high heels 10x too big for us but wearing it was SO speical to my sister and I

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am going to keep my dress, as did my mother after she was married.  I liked the idea of showing my future children someday!  I actually found an idea on here about a week ago about possibly using a mother’s wedding dress to make a christening outfit for a baby’s baptism.  I think doing this would be just as meaningful as if I were to wear it on my wedding day!!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That’s a toughie. My dress is so big but I might send it to my mom’s to save on space until I decide whether or not to sell it or make something of it or…

I also know I will be taking a huge loss financially and then I’ll look at it as just paying that loss as “rent” on the dress to wear for one day, it’s kinda a practical v romantic thing but in the end I am keeping it because of both reasons. There is so much fabric I could probably make something for our baby out of it. Maybe all our babies!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve been back and forth about keeping or sellling my dress (whcih I should point out I haven’t actually chosen yet…).  Originally I thought I’d sell it, but now I’m thinking maybe I could use the material to make christening gowns for our babies so they’d have special significance, and maybe even reusing some of the veil material for a daughter’s communion veil.

My mom kept hers hoping I’d wear it (unbeknownst to me!).  She got married in Nov in a beautiful old Catholic church wearing a lace turtleneck gown with long sleeves – I’m getting married outdoors on a farm in July.  Her disappointment has created some awkwardness between us – which I think is a big part of my hesitation on chose a dress once and for all – and I definitely would want my daughter to feel free to find her own gown and not feel pressured to wear mine.

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