Post # 1
I need some level headed advice.
My Dad, who I love and adore more than I could possibly explain, is a little old fashioned and not really accepting the “theme” of our wedding which lays in the shabby-chic rustic-elegant space. Fiance decided awhile back that he wanted to wear a brown tweed vest and no suit jacket. I love this look so I didn’t disagree, plus why should I tell him what to wear? It’s his wedding, too.
Fast forward to last night when I asked my Dad if he had given any thought to what he would wear. He said he would wear his suit, which is black. Now, I already have a thing against black (it’s not a funeral) but I let that slide. The thing is, Dad is going to be a lot more formal looking than the wedding itself, not to mention more formal than the groom. I tried to tell him gently that he may want to consider something other than a suit and he gave me a flat out no. He then said to Fiance, “You should wear a suit. There are two times to wear a suit no matter what… your wedding and your funeral.”
Fiance didn’t object, he just nodded. I didn’t say much. I just let it go but I have been thinking about it. Is there a way to gently ask my Dad not to wear a suit or should I just let this one go?
For reference, here are some photos of the look Fiance is going for.
Post # 3
Let it go. When he gets there he may feel over dressed and remove his jacket anyway or just for comfort.
Post # 4
unless it REALLY bugs you, i would just let it go. it’s his little girl’s wedding, so if one of the things that’s important to him is wearing a suit, so be it.
maybe you could talk him into getting a brown suit though?
Post # 5
Let it go. Black looks nice (think “little black dress”) not like a funeral to me. Also, I think it’s cute that he wants to look nice for his daughter’s wedding! Definitely not a battle that needs fighting.
Post # 6
I would gently suggest a brown suit, but if he’s all for his black one then let him wear it! Don’t worry!
Post # 7
You’re all right. I’m not worried, per se, I guess I was just concerned he would end up feeling awkward. But it’s his choice and if he ends up wanting to take his jacket off, he can.
Post # 8
If you’re worried about how he’ll feel, I wouldn’t. He’s likely going to be very proud of you and happy, and he’s not going to be thinking about his suit at all. I watched my dad at my sister’s wedding, and he didn’t seem to have a care in the world :).
Post # 9
I think you should let it go. Your dad is an adult and deserves the right to dress himself. It might look cute to be “in theme” for photos, etc. but it’s more important that he is comfortable, in my opinon.
Post # 10
I would let it go. Looking at the pictures, it doesn’t seem that your dad wearing a suit with a jacket is going to be that “out of the norm”. He wants to be a little different because he’ll be giving you away (I assume). And yet, he’s not a part of the attendants, so he’s not going to clash with anyone… I would say let it go. OR I would make him compromise to wear a grey or brown/tan suit instead. But really, I think it will be fine.
Post # 11
I would let it go. I’m sure he won’t feel uncomfortable. If anything he would feel uncomfortable not wearing a suit to a wedding as he probably sees it as tradition and I’m sure other people will wear suits as well.
Post # 12
If you could do it nicely, try to get dad to buy a new suit in brown or navy. Black suits make men look really old sometimes. See if he would be willing to meet you half way – he wants to wear a suit, you want him to look good, and it’s your wedding. I love rustic elegance. Btw – it’s always better to have your dad be overdressed than underdressed. If you can’t get him out of the black suit, try to get him to wear a funky tie and hip boutineer.