Post # 1
okay not going to write a long ago story: short story…..my mother and father been divorce seen i was like two months and she went striaght to my step father. I was raise by my biolgical father for most of my life, now live with mother and step father. Bottom line they hate each other…..so who do i ask to walk me down the aisle? I don’t want to ask neither for I hate conflict. So i was thinking I would ask my boyfriend”s grandfather(on mother’s side, since his father isn’t in the picture) to do and neither my father or step father can be mad, i pcik the other one then them. What do you think of my idea? your advice pleases!
Post # 3
I think that sounds like a good idea to keep the peace!
Post # 4
@angelle94: I think that still might be hurtful to your father.
If your bio father raised you, I think he should walk you or no one. If your stepfather raised you it would be hard (the bio dad versus the man who raised you), but here the choice seems obvious.
Your stepfather can put on his big boy pants and cope. My mother hates my father but still let him walk my sister down the aisle. My mother is always civil at her children’s weddings, for the sake of her children, because she realises the day is not about her.
Post # 5
@angelle94: If your biological father raised you, I can’t see how your stepfather could possibly be mad. I think your bio Dad would still feel its a slap in the face. Seems to me he earned the honor.
Post # 6
I would go with your Dad. If you want to include your stepfather, maybe you can play a song you both like for a special dance with him too?
Post # 7
I agree with PPs–bioDad raised you, bioDad walks you!
Post # 8
@angelle94: have you considered having both of them walk you down the aisle?
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I think the man who raised you should walk you, or just simply noone.
Post # 10
Was your relationship with your biological father good? Also, how long did you live with him compared to your mom and step dad? If your relationship was good and you have lived with your mom and step dad only a small amount of the time, I would suggest asking your bio father. Being a parent isnt easy, and I think he would probably be hurt if you teo have a good relationship and you didnt ask him simply to appease your mother.
Post # 11
I think you are going overboard to appease your mom. How long did you live with dad?
Post # 12
I would go with your Dad…your stepdad can walk your mom done the aisle in the processional.
If not, walking on your own is always an option too!