(Closed) Daddy trouble… What to do??

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would you do about dads walking you down the aisle??
    Keep it the way it is walking down with both : (35 votes)
    90 %
    Just walk down with your bio dad : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Walk alone : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Walk with my mom : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I like your idea! they are both a part of your life so they should both be part of that! 

    Post # 4
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think your idea is great. 🙂

    I had a similar issue, except I’m not particularly close to either of them. So, Fiance and I are walking down together to avoid the issues that could have ensued. But that’s just what works for us. I think yours is great too.

    Post # 6
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    I can totally understand both sides of the situation. Meaning if I were you I would do the same and if I were him I would be hurt, but also understand the reasoning why. I am sure he always dreamed of it a certain way and now its being taken away from him.

    Its one of those situations where someone is going to feel a little bad no matter what. So I would be sure to tell him what you just told us. Maybe before the ceremony give him a special card that tells him “My stepfather [you] could never take my dads place,”. 

    He wants you to be happy and deep down he probably understands, but he is dissapointed and probably could use some reassurance.

    It is kind of an odd comparison, but imagine you have a sister who is getting married and for years you thought you would be Maid/Matron of Honor, then when she asks you, you find out you are sharing the duties with her best friend. You likely would be dissapointed, but would understand.

    Post # 7
    2107 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I understand why your dad is hurt (although he could have expressed those feelings a little sooner!), but I think you’ve made an awesome compromise.  I think it’s great that you’re recognizing the role that your stepdad has played in your life, while still honouring the daddy-daughter bond that you and your father share. 

    Post # 9
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Wont you be doing the father-daughter dance with your real father? Can you emphasize that to him?

    Post # 10
    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I like your idea and it sounds fair to me. You bio dad needs to realize that your stepdad is important to you too and he is in his own way a father as well. I would let your mom talk to him and stress to him how important he is. He’s probably just feeling like your stepdad is trying to take over.

    Post # 11
    1240 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I love you idea. I think I’m only going to have my dad only go halfway, and have Fiance meet me for the rest. And maybe have both go the second half?

    Post # 12
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I am doing the exact same thing (my Dad doesn’t know yet) and I think your Dad should just get over himself. Like you said, this man has been in your life since you were eight and he is important to you. He deserves to have an important part in your big day.

    Post # 14
    4824 posts
    Honey bee


    Honesly, I dont know your relationship with your step dad and dad, but maybe you might want to consider not doing the dance with your step dad because that does put both of them on equal footing. Which, if they are, that is great, but then your father needs to know that, if they arent, then that dance belongs ot your bio dad only.


    have a 30 second fast paced song with your step dad and then have that lead into something…

    Post # 16
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think your dad is realizing he is not the only important man, or even father figure, in your life. He wasn’t there as much as your step father was for you.  And having your stepfather walk you part way down the aisle makes that pretty clear to him (and everyone else there.) It’s not you he disappointed in, it’s himself for not being there. 

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