Post # 1
My dad has a long history of dysfunction with his on-off girlfriend of nine years. Let me just say that this girlfriend is very, very young. Not much older than myself. They have four live children, and have custody of none. One was given up for adoption to strangers, the other three were adopted by family members. A cat is a better mother than my dad’s gf (cue Rhett Butler accent). She has told me once before that she loves being pregnant, but hates actually having to take care of the kids once they’re born.
Anyway, dad’s gf is pregnant. Guess when she’s due? Early July. Guess when I’m getting married? Second week of July.
Soo… This leads to only two possible outcomes:
My dad will not be at my wedding
A screaming newborn will be at my wedding
And yes, they would DEFINITELY bring their only days old baby to a wedding. Even if it is a Destination Wedding and will be incredbily hot outside. Like I said, cats are better mothers.
I’ve never had to worry about the baby crying during ceremony thing, because no one in my family or FI’s has little babies anymore. But, if my dad and his gf come (and I seriously doubt she will sit home, even having just given birth, and let my dad come alone) they will have an infant.
Post # 3
Were the authorities involved in the custody situations with the other babies? If so, they will likely be on them as soon as it is born to remove this child. If not, what is the likelihood they are not going to give this baby over for adoption as well right away?
As for if they do have a newborn at the wedding…days old babies tend to just sleep a LOT. I am not that fond of babies at all, so have a pretty low tolerance, but I would take a newborn over a baby/kid who is a few months old+ anyday. They usually just sleep and eat and now and then briefly fuss before sleeping and eating again.
If your dad does not come, it will be disappointing for you I am sure if you wanted him there, but life happens and sometimes we just need to roll with it or it will just bring you down. I know that is pretty pathetic advice, and I know you are probably just venting, but there is not much you can do about it if he chooses not to be there.
Post # 4
Newborns are typically quiet, as they sleep for most of the day. I would worry more that she gives birth the same day or something and your dad can’t be there at all.
Post # 5
@DeathByDesign: my thoughts exactly. a newborn is not much of a worry since they sleep basically all the time. And even when they do cry its not as bad as an older babytoddler.
Post # 6
Agreed, very very newborn babies tend to mostly sleep and if they fuss there’s a reason, so the parents typically take care of it.
I think my bigger problem if I were you would be the entire situation as a whole but by now you are probably immune 🙁
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
oh my goodness, date twin…I will be thinking happy thoughts for you: “Stay in there a little longer, bambino!”
Is there someone you could ask (like if you’re having a DOC coordinator, for ex.), who would be willing to watch the baby during the ceremony, just in case it starts to cry a lot?? Or is she smart enough to realize that if the baby cries, to leave the ceremony area, so not to disturb the vows?
PPs are right- newborns can be less disruptive than toddlers- I hope your Dad can make it.
Post # 8
Oh my. With all their other children adopted out are they planning on keeping this one? Newborns aren’t a big worry, seriously they mostly sleep and eat. Man. What a weird situation. I am so sorry =/
Post # 9
Sorry, I don’t even know what to say these people are a peice of work, lets be glad that they adopt these kids out hopefully to people who will love and take caare of them. In the meantime perhaps as wedding gift to your dad you can get a vasectomy.*while it’s tempting I’m joking kind of * maybe suggest it to him at another time perhaps after the wedding. Good luck